Post # 1
I am! But mostly because being single is so easy! I can just grab my bag and travel whenever I want, I can go visit my family whenever I get homesick. I am so excited to be married also! Start a family, etc. My Fiance says I can still go visit my dad like I’m used to now, but I can’t help but be a little scared of the ‘unknown’. Anyone else?
Post # 3
I am super excited! But I guess I am kind of scared of whats next. Things are so good and I am kind of scared of the day when things wont be as good.
Post # 4
Ditto. Excited and feel ready but still scared. Besides having kids it’s one of the biggest life-altering things you can do!
I certainly am afraid, but I don’t have any doubts. I think you can have both, and I think usually our FIs feel the same way.
Post # 7
Yes!!! im beyond scared.. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years.. so not only will I be starting a new life with him but I will be 8 hours away from my family!! ;-( but I know it will be a blast… I was just up there visiting this past weekend & we bought his wedding band.. that kinda sealed it for me… bc I knew next time I would be coming up, would be to move… So YES i am soo excited about marriage bc i dnt want to “mess up” lol but i am very scared at the same time…. So I feel ya!
Post # 8
Oh yea. We reserved our ceremony venue and I was thinking “oh my gosh, this is it. We HAVE to do this. We ARE getting married……OMG after that comes kids.” I’m scared, but excited……but still scared.
Post # 9
Lately I’ve been kind of jealous of one of my coworkers because she’s 24, single for the past few months, and seems to be having a great time, dating, traveling, etc. I feel like I kind of missed out on that because I was single – like really single, not in a relationship – for about five months out of the past ten years.
So I wouldn’t really say I’m so much scared of getting married as I’m mourning the loss of my single days.
But at the same time, I’ve wanted to marry my Fiance for several years now. I can’t really imagine dating again or ever wanting to be with anyone else. And we’re both approaching 30 and really want to start a family within the next couple of years. So it’s more exciting than anything else.
I think it’s perfectly normally to feel conflicting emotions at this time in your life. Marriage is a huge change.
Post # 10
OP: Speaking as an old married lady, I can tell you that if you and your Darling Husband have a solid foundation and understanding before going into the marriage, you can still do all of the things you mentioned above! Darling Husband and I both still travel with our friends (without eachother) on a whim. He’ll wake up and say “I feel like golfing with John today” and I’ll say “have fun, see you at dinner!” I play softball and go to the bar with my co-ed team every Thursday without him. We LOVE the time we spend together, but because we were independent before we were married didn’t mean we had to change everything because we signed a piece of paper. Do whatever works for you!!
Post # 11
I’m so excited and terrified at the same time. I don’t think there’s a marriage in my family that lasted more than 20 years. I’m really really scared I’m going to suck at being married.
I think fear is normal though.
Post # 12
I am beyond excited and a tad bit scared. Mostly because we are not living together until after the wedding and we are moving across the country far away from all of our friends and families. It will be alot all at once to get adjusted to but I know it will all be okay because Fiance is my best friend.
Post # 13
I am alternating between geeked out super excitment and near panic attack. And anyone I’ve expressed this too has said “what’s the big deal? It’s not going to change that much.” And I’m like, if nothing was different we wouldn’t be doing it in the first place. It’s sort of the point. AND When I think about having a different name. And having new family members. And just everything its WEIRD. Exciting and scary, like the top of a roller coaster. I am happy about it all, it’s just….a weird feeling.
Post # 14
@CanAmBride: Ahhh…your answer was like a breath of fresh air, loved it!
Post # 15
@Miss Peach Tree: Same here! And we have his family close by but mine far, so I’ll have to get used to seeing them more than I see mine. But I’m planning on still visiting like I do now.