Post # 1
I am having a hard day. I just found out a week ago that I am pregnant. My guess is that I am 5-6 weeks… I have my first Drs Appt next week. Overall, I feel really good- I haven’t been sick at yell yet, getting great sleep, continuing to work out and heating super healthy… The only problem I’m having is that I am so SAD. I’m sure one day I will look back and not believe I EVER felt this way, but all I can think about right now is how “over” my life is! Sorry for the over-dramatics… I told you, I’ve had a hard day LOL! My girlfriends and I have a Girl’s Night planned to go out for dinner (which includes drinks…) and I am just so bummed that I can’t partake in the usual festivities (Drinking). I am sad that I am already 20 pounds heavier than I was when I got married and now I am PREGNANT?! I am sad that I already feel this way and I am not even experiencing any of the negative side effects of pregnancy yet…I’m sad I can’t drink coffee.. I’m sad I can’t have a ciggarette after a bad day at work… I’m sad that it will no longer be me and the hubby and our “alone time” is going to be over before I even know it… I just keep thinking that if I feel this way now, how am I ever going to deal with morning sickness, being HUGE, or any of the other crazy things that supposedly come with the territory. Anyone else out there experience this? Will it maybe get better once I have the US and hear the heartbeat? Right now I just feel like a crazed lunatic and not being able to turn to any of my usual outlets (except working out) to get rid of stress is just really taking a toll on me. Please tell me it gets better and that it is all unicorns, glitter, and danging-singing teddy bears from here on out…
Post # 3
Was this pregnancy planned or a surprise?
I know that many, many women and their husbands have similar feelings when they find out a baby is on the way. As hard as it is, you should try to focus on some of the more happy things with this pregnancy. Feel good about the fact that you’re looking after your body (not drinking, smoking, having coffee). Try to find healthier things to replace those habits. Think about how your life will benefit from this little one rather than what will change.
It’s fine to feel the way you do. Lots of hormones are changing like crazy in there, which will make your emotions haywire! Just make sure that if it persists, you’ll see a doctor to discuss it!
Post # 4
If you don’t want to be pregnant, you don’t have to be. Really. If you guys aren’t ready, there are a lot of options.
It’s a huge, huge, huge shift. I think it’s normal to feel like you do, especially if it isn’t planned!
Post # 5
Sigh…. I don’t know. We originally said we would TTC after we were married a year and then a year seemed to go by super fast so we said 2 years (which was this past April). A few months before this April I said we should wait until September because of various things we have planned with our family (a cruise in Sept. for one.. I’m really worried I am going to feel like sh*t). So, technically, we were going to start TTC in September (that is if I didn’t postpone it again), but I was basing that on it taking a few months to actually happen. We didn’t try for this to happen, but we definitely didn’t prevent it either. It was the one and only time we haven’t used our tried and true POM (because i thought I was getting ready to start my period any day and figured it wouldn’t hurt… WRONG!). Anyways, I am so all over the place. My husband is really excited, but I honestly don’t know how to feel… One minute I am looking up nursery inspiration pics on pinterest and the next I am daydreaming about how my life was just a month or so ago… FREEDOM. ::Hangs head in Shame:: I wish I could just be one of those girls who is so excited and the thoguht of pregnancy and I am sad that I’m not.
Post # 6
Aww, sweetie, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Unfortunately, I dont think I’m the person you’re hoping to hear from because it never did get better for me 🙁 Don’t get me wrong, we were SUPER happy about the bebe (we tried for over a year to conceive) but I was never looking forward to the actual being pregnant part for all the reasons you mentioned. My lifestyle wasn’t very condusive to being pregnant either, and I feel like I’ve been waiting FOREVER to get back to being ME. I’m 34 weeks now and can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel but it’s been a LONG road and a VERY difficult pregnancy for me. My depression became extremely severe when I started having serious health complications. Currently I’m battling migraines, anemia, pre-existing ulcers, AND pancreatitis on top of all the regular pains of being a huge pregnant person now. I also gained 30lbs+ so far and it’s the first time in my life I’ve ever been overweight and I carry it terribly. A few days ago I saw a pic of myself my husband took at a wedding and literally didnt recognize myself. I can’t stop crying and I’m just so ready for it to be over and for her to be here.
On a brighter note, pregnancy WILL bring some things to counteract all the bad. For me it wasn’t enough to pull me out of the depression, but I did enjoy feeling the first movements, finding out the gender, choosing a name and decorating her nursery. I know I will love her when I finally get to see her beautiful face, but right now I can’t even THINK about ever having another child. I’m going to need at least two years to forget all this, and if I’m not over it by then I don’t think we’ll have a second at all because I’ll be on the older side.
Anyway, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PM me if you need any support. With my family at a distance I didn’t feel like I got enough of it at all; in fact some bees on here will even call you selfish for some of the things you wrote but after what I went through that will never be me; I just want to be there now to help others going through the same things if I can.