Post # 1
Now that everything is done and over with regarding the wedding, I don’t have anything immediate that I can look forward to. We are not trying for a baby for another year or two, we do not have our own house and won’t for another two years, and we can’t even get a dog because our apartment doesn’t let us have one.
We’re going to try to enjoy these two years together by doing some travelling but even that is hard with our work schedules as well as financially. I feel like I am just stuck in this limbo period. I’ve talked to my husband about it, and all he really tells me is not to worry and that these next two years will fly by. I don’t really buy that because it’s friggin TWO years. It’s a long time to exist without having something to look forward to. I just feel kind of empty.
Post # 3
I went through something like this right after we got married. After all the parties, the presents, the family, the fun, etc. it felt like there was nothing to look forward to. We too, are planning on waiting year or two before TTC and I have slight baby fever! What helped me to realize that there IS something to look forward to, lots of somethings actually. In the future, house and kids. In the present, spending every day with the love of my life!
Maybe take up a new hobby! I’ve been reading more since the wedding and have also just started a new job, both of which have helped me feel more in the swing of things. It’s a tough feeling, it really is, BUT there are great things to look forward to!
Post # 4
Things to look forward to:
other people’s weddings
holidays (Valentine’s day is a month and 9 days!)
parties you’ll throw in your new house/apartment with all your wedding gifts
the next season of your favorite TV show
meeting your goals or New Year’s Resolutions
sex with your new hubby!
See, there’s lots of great things still happening in life worth looking forward to!
Post # 5
It’s not really a limbo period–it’s just life. Where there is nothing to “look forward to”. You settle into a routine of nesting and just enjoying your home life with your husband. Even after you have kids, i’m not sure what you’ll be looking forward to (aside from them growing up) because the biggest two things in your life are past you at that point. Try to enjoy the moment–the simple things that revolve around making a home together.
After the wedding was over, i just relished all the free time i had to do whatever i wanted. i picked up a hobby, i wasn’t stressed, i could cook whatever i wanted for dinner, and just plop my butt on the couch and enjoy tv shows with my husband without searching for wedding stuff at the same time
Post # 6
I agree with the PP – at first I felt like there was nothing to plan or get excited for but then I realized it didnt matter. I really enjoy our everyday routine and just being husband and wfie. I love the comfort of coming home to my husband. I love the security I feel when we can do our own separate things but also know that we are going home to one another. I love cooking together, sitting on my computer writing on WB or my blog while he plays video games, taking our dog on a walk, talking in bed at night. And in the next year I am looking forward to going to our first wedding as a married couple (then 3 more after that), saving money for a house, planning our next vacation, etc. I think over time the feeling you are having will subside – it did for me and now I am so happy! One of my friends is getting married this year and even though Im not a Bridesmaid she is asking me a lot of stuff since I recently got married so that is keeping me in the wedding planning mode! Good luck 🙂