(Closed) Anyone feel like being a bride changes some people?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I think anytime someone is under an enormous amount of stress they react in different ways. Personally, wedding planning was VERY difficult for me and I had a few moments that make me cringe as I look back on it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I havent experienced it (yet) with myself nor my best friend who got married last year.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup.  People become self-entitled, pretentious jerks.  And they don’t always go back to the way they used to be!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@badabing88:  Did they forget it was supposed to be fun? I can’t contemplate how anyone could let something as apparently joyful as their wedding day be tarred with stress and craziness. Yes, I have definitely experienced brides who have turned into entitled bratty jerks (ones who I would expect to, and ones who I wouldn’t). It’s strange. I’m just as calm about everything as I usually am.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think sometimes it exaggerates parts of their personality, maybe parts that people don’t typically see. I have never met a bride whose personality completely changed. The ones that acted kind of bitchy had sort of shown moments of that type of attitude previously

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@badabing88:  Not exactly. But I have found that the entitled, bratty people I did know used being engaged as a forum to take their monstrous behavior to a whole new sickening level. They weren’t stressed and reacting to that stress. They were just ugly people who loved the thought of captive audiences.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

OH yes!  I had a good girlfriend of mine who asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and by the end of her wedding day, I just wanted to shake the sh*t out of her and scream “I hate you!” That is the reason that I made a promise to myself not to be anything like that, and according to my girls, my family, and my vendors, I wasn’t!  My photographer actually told me I was the calmest bride she had ever worked with 😀  I definitely had my moments, but they were very brief and I quickly pulled myself back to neutral.  It’s all a state of mind. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I just had a few moments over the weekend but I think the crazy has been piped down (for now, hopefully forever!) 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@badabing88:  I believe what you are describing is commonly known as the Bridezilla

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think a wedding can change someone….maybe bring out a side that was already there but previously unseen 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have actually done Bridezilla checks to make sure I’m not turning into a crazed harpy.  I’ve asked the people that I absolutely trust to tell me if I’m even approaching the deep end of the crazy pool.  These are also the same people who can be trusted to tell me honestly if my hips look wide in a dress.  So far, so good. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know.  I think I may have become one of these aforementioned ladies, but I feel that sometimes it can be explained.  Yes, I am WELL aware that my wedding is not the most important thing going on in everyone’s lives, however there have been moments when family/close friends have just really surprised me.  

 

Just the unexpected flakiness and selfishness of people whom I previously thought I was close to has stressed me out…and trust me, I haven’t asked much-barely anything- from people….I’m 5 days out right now and I think I’m finally having a moment of clarity with this stuff, but it was definitely a rocky road.  

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

OH YES! My former friend was all sweet and fun to hang around before she started to plan her wedding.  She actually grew horns in the disguise of hair extensions and became one of the most outrageous, bratty, entitled people I have ever met – and my grandmother is a certifiable narcissistic so I know about these people. 

I think I became more “cool” because it was the first time in my life I realized I couldn’t 100% control every situation.  It took a few panic attacks and a serious bridezilla moment (that only lasted for 10 minutes thankfully) but I figured out how to deal with it. She used it as fuel.

 

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