(Closed) Anyone feel like the wedding has taken off their life?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m on the same boat.  And, I’m getting tired of the wedding planning process.  I don’t know how some girls do it!  I also dread hearing, “Are you excited?!  It’s getting so close!’  For once, I wish someone would talk about the weather to me.  lol

Post # 4
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

YES YES YES, right now about 75% of my week is wedding involved/related/talked about.. i just said to myself earlier “im so bored with it”

dont get me wrong im totally excited..but i just need a few days where theres NOTHING wedding related even thought about!

everyones pushing cuz we have a lot of events coming up, im like shushhhhhhhhhhh let it be for a while!

Post # 5
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t talk about our wedding at all.  People know we’re eloping but we’re telling nothing else…date, destination, dress…nothing.  Women keep asking me and getting so excited.  I was surrounded by 4 women at work a couple weeks ago just talking on and on about it while I sat there wanting to eat my lunch.  What they don’t know is that I already had everyrhing planned before we even announced to people we were engaged and I don’t want to talk about it.  πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so glad that I’m not the only one feeling this way.  When I say it out loud, or even think this way, I feel so selfish, ungrateful, etc.  I am extremely happy, love my fiance and am so so excited for us to spend our life together, but lately, we’ve had so many more arguments about decisions, him thinking that my Mom is too pushy, me thinking that his Mom never follows through with anything and very negative feelings in general about one another, our families and it starts to allow doubt to creep in, over silly, silly decisions.  I’ve really tried to enjoy the process and it’s been fun overall, but is it bad to be at the point of “I don’t care anymore” mode?? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was that way until this week.  Now with the wedding being so close, I don’t want to talk about it AT ALL Laughing

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve started to feel bad for the people who ask me about my wedding because all I say is “I can’t wait until it’s over!” I am super excited to see all my friends and family who I haven’t seen in years and to get married, but I can’t wait to get my life back. I work a full time job and a part time job and this wedding planning leaves me no time at all to just relax or get my house put together (just bought a house in June and it looks like no one lives there because there’s no time to decorate). It makes me so happy that I’m not the only one who feels this way πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

YES.

I’m not working, and I just moved to a new city with my Fiance, so all I have going on is wedding planning. It makes me crazy that that is my only topic of conversation, but that’s all I have to think about! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh my gosh…. you girls are where I was a year ago. Scrolling down, reading your posts it brought back ALL the feelings I had.

I think all brides get overwhelmed. Planning a wedding isn’t as simple as “Hey babe, what movie do you feel like to seeing”? You and your Fiance will probably never “loudly discuss” more in your relationship than when it comes to making decissions about your wedding. I had several “melt downs” and even thanked my husband in my speech to him at our reception for continuing to love me through the whole wedding planning process. There were many times I told him I just wanted to call our guests, un-invite them and grab our close family and get married in the park (hey, I still wanted to wear my pretty wedding dress!!).

I’m here to tell you it DOES get better. When the day comes all I ask of you is to find a moment during your reception, take a deep breath and look around. Look at all your hard work you and your husband did and think to yourself “It was all worth it”!! I did too.

Post # 11
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I feel the opposite, it’s like there is something wrong with me. I feel very underwhelmed by it. I’m a one-day-at-a-time kind of person though, so that probably has to do with it. I take every decision/appointment/project as it comes. I still have the big picture in my head, but I try to avoid that thought process that looks at every single thing I have to do and lump it together.

Granted, you ladies are much closer to your weddings than I am. So, my feelings could change. Especially if I put anything off, or something comes up.

Good luck though, you’re almost there!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Stoppy321 No, there’s nothing wrong with you. I think it’s you have a year plus till your wedding and have things under control. It mostly happens when it’s closer or when unforeseen things come up and makes your well laid plans go out the window. Everyone’s different and some brides may be able to avoid melt downs. For me, I take on the world without thinking “How the heck am I going to do that”?

Post # 13
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Ill Be Mrs B:  Thank you so much for the encouragement!  It’s days like this that I truly needed to hear this from someone who has been in the same shoes.  Fiance and I have never truly argued or fought until the wedding process.  Sounds crazy, but the multitude of decisions, opinions and points of view easily cloud what should be (and I’m sure will be) a joyful, memorable, fun-filled day that is only the beginning of the rest of our lives!

Hang in there fellow bees!  The finish line is nearing each day that passes and soon we’ll all be living our own little fairy tales πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AJ1982:  I know excalty how you feel. lol

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haha, I feel like I talk about my wedding too much, too, haha πŸ™‚ But then I remember that it’s only because everyone keeps asking me how it’s going. 

I’ll tell you what – I’m sick of talking about it and thinking about it. It’s going to be great, but dude, I just want it to be here already so I can have my normal brain back πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

No, not so much anymore.  But it has taken over my life plannign wise.  I eat, sleep and breathe all things wedding.  I feel like I don’t have time for much else.

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