(Closed) Marrying an only child? Anyone feel like they're missing out?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you feel like you're missing out? If you're marrying an only child.
    Yes, I'm sad too : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Nah, they're a pain anyway! : (20 votes)
    21 %
    I don't care either way : (24 votes)
    25 %
    I like turtles. : (40 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 47
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    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Fiance is an only child with no cousins. My sister never wants to have kids. I do feel disappointed that my kids won’t have cousins. I was very close with mine growing up. Also, my mom and her SIL are best friends.

    Post # 48
    Member
    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted that I like turtles (because I do… I like frogs more though), but really you didn’t have my answer up there. I am marrying an only child. His entire side of the family consists of  5 people. That is going out to as far as family relations go. His father was an only child, both his paternal grandparents were the only childern that survived to child bearing age, his mom has 2 siblings. One never married and the other married but never had children. All his grandparents have passed. I’ve only met his aunt and uncle (by marriage) and he’s only met his mom’s brother once (they aren’t close).

    Me on the other hand have 2 sisters, and a rather large extended family. I don’t think family is a pain, but I am certainly happy that Fiance has no siblings. I LIKE being the only daughter of their family. I wouldn’t want it any other way. So my answer would be No, I don’t feel I am missing out because family is family. No matter the size.

    Post # 49
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    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Because you can’t choose your family like you can choose your friends, I’d find it hard to feel like I was missing out on those theoretical relationships.  I’m quite happy that he has some really wonderful friends that are now counted as my friends, and I don’t feel like I’ve missed out by not having formed super-close relationships with his sisters.

    Post # 50
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @vorpalette:  It was something that was really important to him and it came up in an arguement. The woman who he ended up marrying has a huge family and the seem very happy.

    It worked out for the best, my SO loves my grandparents, aunts, and uncles. They are awesome.

    Post # 51
    Member
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m the opposite of your situation, I’m the only child (I have 2 older half siblings that are not in my life at all) and my mom’s side of the family none of her 3 siblings ever had kids, so I’m the only one there too. Fiance just has 1 brother, his mother also passed away when he was in high school…so it literally is just him, his bro and his dad. 

    I think in all honesty, everyone should just be thankful for what they are blessed with. My fiance and I have talked about this exact thing before…and all we can say about it is that yes, sometimes it would be nice if I had a sibling because I’ve never known that kind of sibling relationship, you know having someone you can ALWAYS count on to have your back. But a lot of people have brothers and sisters and it’s not all roses either. Don’t dwell on something you cannot change or control. And just be happy for what you have. 🙂  

     

     

     

    Post # 52
    Member
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2002

    Ummm…NO. 

    I am an only, Darling Husband is an only, and we have an only.  While some sibling relationships are wonderful, I have seen many that are horrible and am thankful I don’t have that drama to deal with. 

    Post # 53
    Member
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m an only child, and come from a VERY small family (only 3 cousins on both sides). My husband has a sister, who is anything but nice…so we only visit to see our nieces. His sister provides plenty of drama, so I think Darling Husband is actually grateful that I’m an only :oP 

    Post # 54
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    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @X0JLYNN03:  I’m in the same situation as your Fiance – I have no siblings, no cousins (and no aunts or uncles – my mom was an only and my dad’s brother died young).

    My Darling Husband has a brother, but they aren’t close, and his brother’s wife can’t have kids. So I was always hoping to get a cool Brother-In-Law or SIL and nephews and/or nieces through marriage, but it looks like that won’t happen. I’m a little disappointed – I always kind of wanted to be an auntie.

    Post # 55
    Member
    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Not a bad situation. In laws can really suck a big one. 

    Post # 56
    Member
    4161 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My husband has a younger brother and younger sister, but he’s not close with either of them.  His brother is weird and his sister is super shy and still quite young/only cares about hanging out with friends right now.  I wish I had that SIL relationship, but it’s okay.  My husband and my sister are close though, so I’m happy about that.

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