(Closed) Anyone feeling alone in their planning?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry you are feeling down. Your wedding is still a ways off in people’s minds, but I’m sure as the date gets closer, you will see them come around. Have you made plans wih your Maid/Matron of Honor to just hang out, NWR? I think this would help both of you.

As for planning alone, you are never alone when you are on wedding bee. You can always find a ton of us here who never tire of wedding talk! So, post away and let’s see what you’re planning!

Post # 4
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My wedding party is also pretty scattered – I’m in Pittsburgh, and the women in my wedding party are in Orlando, DC, Minneapolis, and LA. I try to keep them up-to-date with regular emails, and I’m working on getting some of them to Pittsburgh to do a wedding-shopping-weekend. 

As for branching out – meetup.com has proven fairly useful to me when it comes to getting to know new people. And if you’re in Boston, I’m betting there are a lot of groups you could join!

Post # 5
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m sorry! 🙁 

I’ve also felt this way, because I don’t really have a family and most of my friends live in another state. That’s what originally attracted me to WB to begin with – I needed to vent, kvetch, be inspired, share ideas, laugh and feel a sense of bridal community. It definitely helped ease that lonely feeling! I hope it can do the same for you. 

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Aw… it really sucks that you’re feeling down about this. I think I will have a very similar experience but I’m going into it not expecting much. I don’t have many married friends or any friends that are about to be married… so I don’t really think many people will be too into wedding talk. There are 3 girls I’d ask to be BMs if I have BMs, but two are not local (like, not driving distance) and one just had a horrible breakup so I can’t really ask or expect anything from her on the celebrate-my-wedding front. 

I guess I think it is nice when people DO have people around them that are excited to help celebrate and plan… but on the other hand these people also sometimes have a lot of drama bc theres too many cooks in the kitchen so to speak. I’m going to do it mostly alone with the help of my mom… and thats just fine with me. 🙂

Post # 7
142 posts
Blushing bee

i know how you feel. i live in los angeles – my sister (matron of honor) lives in Michigan, and my bridesmaid lives in Colorado – which makes ‘planning’ prettymuch a whole huge email chain. it’s hard to meet people after college age – but there’s ways. Example – There’s the weddingbee!


Post # 8
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

YES! I know exactly how you feel. We just moved to a new city this summer and 2 of my BMs are still in Texas, my Maid/Matron of Honor is in D.C. and it’s just me and FH here in Kentucky. I know my family and BMs are tired of hearing about wedding stuff long distance (they haven’t said so, but I can sense it) so I feel like I’m doing this all by myself! Fortunately a couple of friends at my seminary have helped me out a little, but we just met in August…so it’s kind of weird. Thus, I am grateful for all my Bees!

Post # 9
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh i feel your pain! I too feel all alone in the planning and decision process. It makes me depressed sometimes that I don’t really have anyone to talk wedding planning with that’s excited for me. i feel swamped and overwhelmed, like i am slowly being buried alive by wedding planning! i too get jealous of people who have lots of family and friends who throw them lots of parties and rush to help them with planning and DIY projects.

Post # 10
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry you feel that way.  I’m kinda in the same boat.  It seems everyone is so busy that they don’t mean to be neglectful but they’re not so involved either.  Then there’s the problem that my friends are all kinda single and don’t seem enthused with there situation so I don’t feel comfortable even bringing up my wedding and the plans for it.  I have one friend, whose wedding is 4 months after mine (we’re in each other’s wedding) who I can talk freely with  because we’re very much in the same boat.  My Mother is even too busy to really sit around and talk about this kinda stuff.  She’s also not into weddings the way some Mom’s are so she’s not excitable.  But, just know that your guests can’t wait to attend and the day itself will be wonderful.  And of course, your fiance is just as happy about it as you are so enjoy the process with him :o)

Post # 11
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

After reading this I feel worse!  I’m 3000 miles from my family and friends and Fiance is in Africa with the UN until February.  I am just not invested in wedding planning right now – I’m in a bit of a rut re: planning.  It’s not fun especially without Fiance but my sister, mom and friends are being great from a distance – it just makes the distance more palpable.  It’s even a hassle to try to figure out how to coordinate the bridal shower/bachelorette during the limited time I’ll be home before the wedding.  Oh well.  It will all  be worth it and I’m sure I’ll get a second wind but I know how lots of you girls are feeling.  *hugs*

Post # 12
14 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

i agree!!  I love thinking about the idea of my wedding but i have had a hard time getting the people around me excited so it’s hard to get into it myself.  They love me and L-O-V-E the guy I”m marrying but i think it feels too far away for everyone (August 2010). Plus no one wants to step on my toes or be pushy but i kind of wish they would!!!  I want pushy.  I want ideas thrown in my face.  I want help.  i want excitement. 

The person who is most excited for me is a new friend of mine up in LA who is helping me plan and come up with ideas.  I almost feel closest to her right now when it comes to the wedding stuff and we’ve only met a couple of times!

What are some ideas to get people around you more into it without looking needy or silly about the whole thing?  I know everyone in my world is excited for us and thinks the wedding will be fun but I still feel like I”m getting no real interest.

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