Post # 1
I’ve very excited I finally found Mr Right and am going to marry him. I’m happy to be having a big event and celebrating with our(my) children and our families. but there is part of me that wants to say eff it all and just elope and be done with it.
there is drama with my dad, there is drama with the photographer, there is family issues popping up that just seem worse because of the upcoming wedding. My Grandmother can’t be there (out of state for her, 5+ hour car ride and she has had 2 strokes since January) there won’t be most of my family there beacuseof the distance and because of tensions that have become worse after my grandmothers stroke… it’s just one thing after another.
My kids, and my Future husband and I are excited to celebrate, but there’s part of me that really wants to just not put the invites in the mail and scrap it all and just go to the court house….
AHHHHHH please tell me this is somewhat normal at 65 days and counting.
Post # 3
@W292737: I know exactly what you are going through – as do scores of other ladies on this forum.
Too much family drama over little decisions. Too much money. Not enough money to pay for the things I’ve already committed to. All around, I am regretting every moment of the wedding planning.
I honest to God would drop everything and elope / run to the courthouse if we hadn’t already spent so much money. Plus there are our mothers to consider. They would be heartbroken and our lives after marriage would continue to be full of drama.
Post # 4
Yes. Today in particular…and I only have 10 days left until mine!
Post # 5
@W292737: yes! I have 6 months but drama all around. The wedding guest list is way over what we wanted, but I can’t cut anyone without hurting someone’s feelings. I’m not getting along with my mom and probably uninvited her like 6 times already. Lol. We don’t want to spend xxx amount of money, but it’s going that way and I just want to say ‘Eff this! Let’s elope! Lol. Still contemplating it, but my dad wants a wedding and offered to pay for it. He said doesnt matter how much. Ugh!
Post # 6
yes, but not because I’m not enjoying wedding planning. I am. But it’s because I want to be married to my handsome husband TOMORROW, not 5 months from now.
ETA: I noticed that I just referred to him as my husband. We do it all the time. I don’t understand how people do 2 and 3 year engagements. I’m very anxious to go ahead and start our life together
Post # 7
Totally understand your feeling. If it weren’t for the fact a lot of people would be angry and disappointed if we canceled things now, I would seriously cancel the wedding and have an amazing, epic honeymoon with the money we spent on this nonsense.
I think it’s extremely common to have these kinds of feelings.
But you know, if I weren’t doing a normal wedding, I bet I would look back and regret not having “the experience”.
Post # 8
I should have listened when people told me to elope. Instead I kind of got hurt and resentful. Now 10,000 dollars later and tons of family drama I really wish I had just listened. But I didn’t want to regret eloping like some of my friends did so I think things are happening exactly like there supposed to
Post # 9
120 days. I think about it 3-4 times/day, lol.
Post # 10
I”m eloping and happy about it maybe 90% of the time. Last year we had a wedding planned, and ended up calling it off. When we decided to get married this year, there were a multitude of reasons that we opted to not plan a wedding. We are going to elope this month and I’m very happy with our choice. I’m a little sad that my mom won’t be there, and we had a good discussion – I basically told her “Hypothetically speaking, how would you feel if [my partner] and I just ran off to the courthouse?” She said it sounded like a good choice, adn we talked about it. We were stressing out so much, and there was drama.
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Post # 12
I thought I was the only one feeling this way! Funny thing wedding just brings out the drama from all directions! Whether is the bride’s family, the groom’s family, the cake, the dress — DRAMA!
Seems like everyone’s got their own agenda.. not sure why people feel that way around weddings. Like they’re entitled to it or something? I’ve said the same thing to my FH. Just say the word, and off to the court house we go….