Post # 1
Hi Bees —
I am new around here. Got engaged right after Christmas but haven’t seen my Fiance since then.
Is anyone else getting frustrated with this fact that you are married and supposed to be planning a wedding but everything is on hold for deployments/the military? We are looking at a min of 2 years for a “real” wedding (and 1.5 years until we can even be in the same state/coast).
It’s easier for him to deal b/c all of his friends are in this “boat” (literally!), but it’s weird that many of my friends who aren’t even engaged yet will prob get married before me. I’m just in a different world.
Post # 3
I was so frustrated by this because when we got engaged, he was going to be deployed right when I wanted to have the wedding (May 2012). So we went to the JOP, got married, then we planned a wedding in 8 weeks and got married this past October. Then the Army changed their minds and decided not to deploy him. Wonderful. But we had the wedding of our dreams, at least (although it was incredibly stressful for me to plan). I feel you! I don’t have any great advice for you, except to go with the flow… that’s really all you can do!
Now my frustration is that he’s getting out of the Army, but they won’t tell him when (could be May, could be August), so he’s having a heck of a time figuring out what to tell future employers about start dates when he applies.
Post # 4
oh trust me, I am tired of waiting. It has been two years since I lived in the same state as my love. Luckily it is a lot easier when the end is in sight. I have gotten to see him for brief moments here and there, most recently becuase he was injured so that was less of a good visit and more of just making me worry more.
Come April we will have 2 1/2-ish deployment free blissful years and I can’t wait! I have been hiding the fact that we are actually engaged and soon to be married from most of my friends becuase I live in a new town, most of them have only seen him a few times and don’t really know him. So I feel like the only people I can wedding-vent to are long distance friends through email.
Good luck with the wait, hopefully it isn’t too much longer, and always feel free to vent to me, or the boards, if you ever need.
Post # 5
Oh lord… I totally understand your frustration! My Darling Husband left for Japan 5 days after he proposed, was gone for 6 months. We ended up getting legally married by a JOP in October, but we won’t have a party with our friends and family until July ’13. We might have to move that up/push it back because he might be deploying. He hasn’t been home since November and won’t be until late April.
I wish things could be easier! Sometimes I feel bad because I know when I talk about how much I miss him, it makes him feel bad because he has no control over the situation. I come from a military family, so I knew how unpredictable and sometimes difficult military life could be. As SO that’s what we signed up for! haha. I hope everyones waits go by quickly!!!
Post # 6
Although Fiance is not deployed, we live on opposite ends of the country at this time. I’m finally closing the distance after a year this May! It is hard, and a lot of people can not understand what it feels like for you. One day at a time! I thought this year would NEVER end and here we are less than 90 days away. Enjoy this time to explore all the ideas for your wedding, make him a little care package of some of the things you want to do for the wedding, help him get into it and excited about it! I know it feels like forever, but I promise it will go by faster than you think!