(Closed) anyone get a honeymoon as a “gift” and its just becoming more of a pain in the..

posted 7 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe your mom doesn’t realize how expensive everything else is. I would tell her that she needs to push the date back, because you will be in a tight spot financially after the wedding. Then if she asks why, you can go into more detail. Unless she’s willing to help you out more, the only option would be for her to push the date back or cancel the whole thing. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yikes. We were gifted a hotel room but the gift was done with my consent (if that makes sense). My aunt wanted to pay for our hotel room because she is in a vacation club so she showed me a bunch of options because she knew I loved Disney. We had to pay for our flights and tickets but if we had to pay for the room it would have been too much. We thought about going to Hawaii or somewhere in Europe but the cost associated was too great so we went with Disney.

I can see where you wouldn’t want to appear as ungrateful but…it does seem a little inconsiderate of your mom to gift you something you can’t afford to use. Maybe she didn’t realize it. Can you make any changes? Talk to her about the additional costs?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh man, that would stink! What a tough situation!  Can you talk to your mom and let her know about the extra cost and while you appreciate it, its not in your budget right now?  Maybe talk to a travel agent to see if you can get a cheaper flight?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yes, I would talk to your mom and tell her just what you wrote here–that you are so grateful for the gift but just can’t afford to go so soon. Maybe she will split the cost of the flight/resort fee with you or gift it to you or give you an interest-free loan. But being forthcoming is the best tactic to avoid hurt feelings on her part and stress on yours.

Post # 7
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Newbee

FI’s dad gave us the ticket to Spain!! (yay!) but, we have to pay for the hotel hahhaha I think we are likely on the same situation ‘cuz now we’re searching for comfortable/not expensive hotels!

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

My SIL is paying for the rental of our private villa in St Lucia. We have to pay the flight fees and for activities. But we don’t care. We’re grateful she was gracious enough to pay for the villa

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MeganTacky2247: Your mom sounds like someone in my family, lol. I know how tough it can be to talk to them without making them think you’re blaming them or you’re being ungrateful. Just try to be as nice as you can be about it and hopefully she’ll understand. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MeganTacky2247: That is a really tricky situation! Are the resort fees due ahead of time or can you pay them when you get there? Do you think you will get a few cash gifts before or at the wedding that you could put toward the resort fees?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My parents gave us $4000 for a honeymoon…  but then they required that we use their completely useless travel agent to book the thing.  This lady has spelled my name incorrectly on every single document she has sent me so far – and she’s spelled it in a NEW incorrect way each time.  On top of that, she doesn’t offer many options that aren’t beach vacations, and we definitely did NOT want a beach vacation.  She was awful.  When I mentioned that to my mom, she got really upset and told me that I was an ungrateful brat.

Post # 16
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Newbee

@GreenEyedMoon: sorry but I think that You should be more gratefull for your parent’s gift and try to re explain and talk to that weird lady on the travel agency OR be nice to your parents and tell them you both want a non-beach honeymoon which is the only thing that travel agency offers and I’m sure they’ll understand if you ask to change from agent.

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