Post # 1
I recently decided to go ahead and pay for my bridesmaids (3 friends, 1 sister) to get their hair/makeup done by my lady on site at the wedding. I really want everyone to look uniform but I would never ask them to pay for hair/makeup so I think it’s a pretty good option. (They did pay for their dresses and none of them have that much spare cash) The lady has a pretty good package deal too so it’s not crazy breaking the bank.
Now I’m wondering if I should include my mom? She’s being really great trying to balance staying out of it and helping me plan so I want to include her in the getting ready process. She’s also pretty self conscious trying to choose a dress right now (no carbs, trying to lose weight, I told her she already looks great but you know) and I definitely want her to look and feel her absolute best day of.
I have two concerns.
1) Is this a normal thing? Has anyone else had their mom do professional hair/makeup? I hadn’t heard of it and she’s pretty traditional so if it’s not something that’s normally done she may feel uncomfortable with it.
2) Would it be weird if she got it but my FMIL didn’t? She’s not really “into weddings” and straight out told me she did not want to be escorted to her seat, wear a special dress, or partake in anything bringing attention to herself. She’s really excited for us to get married, she just isn’t really into getting dolled up and people looking at her. I agreed to all requests except one–she asked if they had to do a first dance together! I told her yes, and she will thank me later 🙂
So will it be weird if my mom is all in a dress and hair/makeup done and then his mom is wearing slacks and not done up as much? I just want everyone to be happy!
Post # 3
No it won’t be weird! It sounds like you’re considering everyone’s feelings so no one will be slighted.
I am paying for my mom to have her makeup done (she has short hair she wants to do herself)… I have offered for my FMIL to also have hair & makeup done but I won’t be paying for it if she chooses to have it done. So it’s up to her.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@BluebonnetBride: My mom got her hair and makeup done with us on the wedding day, but she is pretty terrible about doing these things on her own so it was necessary! We also had them done at home, and she was there getting ready with us. I invited MIL to both events but she declined, she wanted to get ready with my SIL in their hotel room and has sensitive skin so she had to use her own makeup.
If you’re inviting your mom, invite your FMIL, she might say no, but no harm done!
Post # 5
We both (MOB & MOG) had our hair and makeup done with the rest of the bridal party. The bride paid for everyone.
Post # 6
Offer it to both your mom and FMIL. Then they can decide if they want it. I will be getting hair professionally done for all the ladies (moms included) but not having anyone do makeup. I will be doing my own as well as my mom’s. I always do her makeup for special occaisions.
Post # 7
I got professional makeup for my mom. She has short hair that doesn’t need styling so I didn’t worry about that one. She always says she does a terrible job with her own makeup so I thought it would be nice. And she got to hang out with me and the bridesmaids all morning.
I did not for FMIL but that is because I think they were doing other things and she was at a different hotel that was pretty far away.
Post # 8
I got it for my 2 Bms, my mom, and FMIL.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We offered it to both moms. My mom got her hair and makeup done. The MOG only got her hair done. We also offered it to my aunt (MOB’s sister) who got her hair and makeup done too.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
My Mom, MIL, Grandmother, and Grandmother-IL all got their hair and makeup done with my bridesmaids and me. It was really nice to have all of the important women in my life in one room on my wedding day.
Post # 11
@BluebonnetBride: I won’t be paying to have my makeup done, let alone my mom! It’s a bit of a cheat though…my sister is a makeup artist 😛 She’ll be doing everyone.
It definitely wouldn’t be weird. Do what makes you both happy. Invite your FMIL and see what she’d like to do. If she’s not that into wedding stuff, she would likely say no anyways, but at least you offered to include her.
Post # 12
My mom had a pro do her makeup, but did her own hair (it’s fairly short anyway). MIL had both hair and makeup done. Not weird at all!
Post # 13
My mom had her make up done I offered to pay for it but she wouldn’t let me, and ended up paying for it herself. It looked excellent and i loved it but i don’t think my mom thought it was worth it, but I did, my mom never really had a heavy hand with her make up for daily wear so for the wedding (and in pictures) she looked gorgeous.
Post # 14
@mu_t: My mom will be getting her hair done professionally. She has very fine hair and wants to have a bit more volume on the big day. 🙂
Post # 15
I am paying for my mom to get her hair and makeup done. I think it is a nice gesture 🙂
Post # 16
I’m paying for my mom to get her hair and makeup professionally done. I also extended this to my bridesmaids and FMIL. I think it’s a nice gesture and who wouldn’t want to look properly dolled up in photos that will last a lifetime?
My FMIL declined but my mother is happy to have it done.