(Closed) Anyone get slack for spending so much on your rings?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee

The only person who ever gave me a hard time was me 😊 My husband doesn’t mind. 

Post # 3
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Not guilty at all. My Fiance fully funded my ering. And our wedding rings have been custom made out of gold we already had. The wedding bands are costing a grand total of £100 which includes hallmarking. 

Some would call that being cheap. But the gold used is sentimental, so worth a lot to us.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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sscott06 :  I think if you want a particular ring regardless of cost etc it’s really no ones business but yours and your partners. You shouldn’t have to justify the cost. I say if you love it etc buy it! 😄

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

When he bought my ring he was 40 so I doubt anyone cared what he spent his money on. He wanted to get me what I wanted and I appreciate that very much. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

As long as you’re not going into debt & paying interest on it, I say go for what you want! I used to be very fiscally conservative, but I learned from a near-death experience that you only live once- get what you want (if you can) don’t delay!!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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knickergold :  I totally agree! I nearly died a few years ago, and since my attitude has completely changed. If you want the ring, and it’s not terribly expensive (only you can define terribly expensive to you), then do it. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Does anyone really care what you spent your money on??  You’re not spending *their* money, why would they actually care??  What’s it to them?  Even if you did go into debt and take out a loan, which I personally wouldn’t do, what’s it to me how you manage finances.  I will never understand that this is actually a problem!  

” spending so much is just ridiculous”. 

“oh I’m sorry, did you have to pay for it?”

“well, uhh no, but…”

“well my money doesnt concern you, now does it?

Post # 9
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Newbee

My fiancé was originally concerned that his family would think we spent too much. On the other hand, my parents told me we should spend at least X amount. A few people have asked me if I was afraid of being mugged or said they would be afraid of being mugged if they were me. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

My mother has said a lot of off the cuff remarks especially since my husband surprised me with a early 10 yr upgrade .. I don’t understand why people hate on rings so much .. I like what I like you like what you like .. Why does there have to be any animosity period .. Sigh oh well .. 

Post # 11
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380 posts
Helper bee

My SO already bought the ring we designed together but he hasn’t proposed yet. We’ve already agreed we won’t be telling anyone how much it cost. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

People asked how much it was, I was honest.  I don’t know it was a gift, when one if my girlfriends said,I bet it was about 5 grand, I gave her the same answer as the girl who thought it was nearer twenty, you reckon.  The only person the price is relevant to is my fi, I personally don’t care what anybody else thinks.   Just brush it off bee, it’s a beautiful ring, enjoy it.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

No, but they don’t know how much we spent. Luckily no one has been crass enough to ask how much the rings cost, but I would not have shared that information anyway. It’s not their business. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Why does anyone even know what your ring cost? Are you telling them?

also…slack? I don’t get it. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Honestly, as someone with very little money, I would say the reaction comes from not understanding if you have money why you’d spend so much on something like a ring. Everyone has different values and things they prioritize, so the reactions are simply from disagreeing. For example If I was well off I’d invest in so many other things. I don’t know how much my ering was, but I do know it was uder $200. My band was $60. Even if I had a lot I’d still spend very little on rings. That said, I would never tell someone they are wrong for spending a lot on rings. I’m sure poeple would disagree that I spend a lot on other things. I may disagree and have a different opinion but theres no point in a comment like that. The people who give you shit about it should probaly just keep comments to themselves. Everyone has their own prioritys, so no point arguing.

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