(Closed) anyone getting married out of state?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
33 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes! I am in the same situation. I live in Texas and I am getting married in Minnesota on July 3, 2010–Just like you! I’m stressing out too…I’m to quite sure what to do. I went home over thanksigivng and went dress shopping with my mom, sister and grandmas. I’m so glad I got that experience. I found a dress that I kind of liked but not loved. I think it would be easiest to buy it where you live. Just so you can do alterations easier. What I am planning to do is to buy my dress here and take it on the plane as my carry on item (which I recently saw a bride do) or carry it in my car depending on how i decide to get there. Its been a challenge to plan a wedding from afar, but we can do it meremarty! I’m using theknot.com and its helped me prioritze things.

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee

I think I would purchase the dress in the location that you live in. It will make things much easier when it comes to alterations.

Post # 6
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think there are some posts similar to this – im in the same situation myself. i live in NYC so it was a no brainer that i’d get my dress here. but then be faced with the problem of transporting it to south carolina.

supposedly the thing to do is just to carry it on the plane with you. if you can fit it into a suitcase that can be carried-on, that’s the thing to do, then gently steam the wrinkles out when you get to your destination. also, evidently if you call ahead to the airline and let them know they might be able to make special accomodations (ie. hang it in the first class coatrack) but given how airlines are these days, im not counting on this.


Post # 7
15 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I bought my dress in Wisconsin where I am getting married.  That way I can fit in alterations while I am in town doing other wedding details and my dress doesn’t have to do any major traveling 🙂

Post # 8
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I bought my dress where I live now but I will be able to drive instead of fly, so it is a bit easier.  The bridal salon told me to just make sure to have the air conditioner on and keep air circulating and the dress should do fine.  If you are flying, contact the airline beforehand- I’ve been on flights to the Caribbean where the brides dress hangs in the first class closet, even if she isn’t flying first class.

Post # 9
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I live in Illinois for Grad school, but I’m getting married in California. I did all my dress shopping here and found my dress 2 weeks ago! It’s so much easier that I can get my alterations and fittings done here. I also loved going with my friends and sister who live here as well. It really added to the experience.

I am just planning on taking the dress with me on the plane. My sister did it last year and the flight attendants actually just let her hang it up with their jackets in the back of the plane so it wouldn’t get bumped. I’ll probably contact the airline ahead of time (thanks for the tip!)

Also, the shop I bought it from agreed to steam it right before I leave so that it will be as wrinkle-free as possible. 

Post # 10
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I live on the West Coast and am getting married on the East Coast in less than 6 months. It was important for me to pick my dress out with my mother so that factored into my shopping. I looked on my own where I live now once or twice, but the real shopping I saved for when I was back home with my family.

We bought mine in the area where my wedding will be held. For me personally, I still consider where my parents live – home. It’s one less thing to deal with for me because it’s close to where the wedding will be and no issues of having to travel with it, whether car or plane.

However, if I was not getting married in my hometown and instead having a destination wedding in a place where no family lived, then I’d purchase it where I live and then figure out how to get it to the location.

Post # 11
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m living in Seoul but also having a wedding in Southern Ontario.  My friend’s mother is a flight attendant for Air Canada and she told me that hanging my dress in 1st class is entirely up to the kindess of my flight crew.  A friend of mine who lives in Korea but is getting married in Egypt and Ohio had huge problems getting her dress from Seoul to Cairo.  I’m trying to find a direct flight home, and trying to buy a dress that won’t wrinkle very much.

Miss Poodle also had a great way to take your dress on a plane if you are of the crafty sort:


Post # 13
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m almost getting married out of state – I’m on the very tip of one side and our wedding will be held on the very tip of the other side! About a 400 mile seperation! From what I’ve learned, do as much as you can in your home town. Don’t assume that things you need or are planning on will be in the out-of-state area. Good luck!

Post # 14
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I live in CA and my wedding was in WA and I got my dress down here.  My dress went through a LOT to get to its final destination and came out great!

For the trip up the dress got put in a tri-fold garment bag (that wasn’t really long enough for the dress) and stuffed in the overhead bin…I was actually in first class and didn’t have an option of hanging it up.  It was probably in the garment bag for 4-5 hrs until I got to my mom’s house.  Then we hung it up out of any bag for the 3 days we were there to keep it from getting more wrinkles.  On day 4 it went back in the garment bag and stuffed in a car where it remained for 4 whole days before we got to our destination where we could actually hang it up again.  It had about 2 days to hang before getting worn for the wedding.  On the morning of, my mom used a handheld steamer to steam out any remaining wrinkles (there weren’t many and it didn’t take very long despite the 4 days stuffed in a bag).  It looked perfect in the end.

Just sayin…it’s probably not nearly as big of a deal as you’re worried it will be (I was worried too!).

It does depend somewhat on the dress material, but my dress wasn’t exactly what you would think of as ‘travel-friendly’….fairly plain satin (so wrinkles would definitely show on the skirt), 100% silk ball-gown.  In my experience, silk fabrics will wrinkle much more easily than synthetic fabrics…but the wrinkles will also come out more easily.

Good luck!


Post # 15
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

I’ll have my dress with me in CA, then bring it to Hawaii.  I hear sometimes, if you ask nicely, the flight attendents will let you store your dress in the first class coat closet, which is better than being shoved in a suitcase or overhead bin.  I’m hoping that’s the case.

Post # 16
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We live in Georgia and got married in Florida where we’re originally from (and our parents live).  I got my dress in Atlanta and after arrived, and alterations were complete, my dad drove up for a visit and brought the dress home with him in the car.

Since you’re getting married on the other side of the country, I don’t think driving the dress is an option for you 🙁  If you’re getting your dress at a chain, I’m sure they’d ship to an East Coast location for you.

Penga’s idea is a good one about the first class coat closet.  I’d feel better having the dress on me personally than sending it on a trip across the country unaccompanied! 

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