(Closed) Anyone Going Straight Into Dinner and NOT Having Cocktail Hour?

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yes! No reason to feed people until they’re stuffed. I’ve actually never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour. The concept seems lavish to me, but I’m from a small town. I’ve never been to a wedding with an open bar, either.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re not having a cocktail hour. My ceremony is ending (according to our schedule) at 6pm and at 6:30 the salad part of dinner is being served. However, we’re having an open bar the whole night, starting at 6.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

cocktail hours that serve a lot of food seems like a waste to me. I have been to weddings with a cocktail hour that just served cheese and fruit trays. You know, something light before dinner. Nothing like freaking food stations and full mini meals. What’s the point of serving dinner if you feed your guests at cocktail hour? 

We are just having cheese, bread, light appetizers, fruit, and our bar selections for cocktail hour. I just can’t imagine eating a full meal before a full meal! 

And most of the time, those lavish cocktail hours are on TV and guess what? 9 times out of 10 the guests are so stuffed they don’t touch their dinner. What a waste of money and food. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re not doing one, I’ve been to probably 8 weddings and I have never been to one.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this, I’ve been to a wedding where there was no cocktail hour. Sometimes the cocktail hour actually saves money though for people considering an open bar. Instead of doing an open bar all night where tab is hard to predict, the cocktail hour hour has a fixed price per person and still allows the guests the luxury of having cocktails of their choice. From that point on it can be wine and beer only. The food during cocktail hour is so people don’t drink on an empty stomach (at around 4-7pm this is usually the case)  and go into the reception already drunk.   

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@meliss: It’s good you brought up the subject of people drinking on an empty stomach. I hadn’t thought about that!

Although for sure I wont be having a cocktail hour, I’m going to see if I can have maybe a fruit tray or a cheese tray. Just so people wont drink on an empty stomach.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our ceremony and the reception were at the same place, so we took all our pictures ahead of time (the first look was my favorite part of the day!) and skipped cocktail hour and went straight into dinner.  It worked out really well for us!

Edit: We did have a “cookie bar” that was open to everyone for the 20 or so minutes between the ceremony end time and dinner being served.  I heard that a lot of our guests enjoyed the homemade cookies during that time.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re not having cocktail hour either. We’ve got an open bar available as soon as guests arrive though and a couple cheese and fruit boards. 🙂

I’ve been to TONS of weddings and only one of them has ever had a cocktail hour, and honestly, I wasn’t even hungry by the time food was served.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

For a multitude of reasons, we opted to cut our reception short (we didn’t have nearly as many guests and we originally planned for, and the venue was kind of in the middle of nowhere so everyone was driving 30-60 minutes home that evening).  It was 4 hours total I believe.  Honestly, we aren’t big party people, and even though we were done before 10pm, we were exhausted and ready to sleep. 

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson: I went to a wedding last summer where the reception started at 5pm and went until 1am. I guess it depends on your crowd. I have also been to one that started at 5pm and was over by 9pm. 

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