- 7 years ago
lol find something to occupy your time. hobbies are good. 🙂 running is my hobby, makes you feel good 🙂
We have lots of tips, but if you want specific (and more useful) ones, be more specific please. 🙂 What aspect(s) of waiting are you thinking about?
ETA: e.g. developing a sense of patience, gentle or less so methods of prodding a SO to action, dealing with inquisitive relatives and friends, saving money, sites for rings…
I second hobbies! Also focusing more on school, career, or something else like that helps too.
Hobbies! I would be insane without mine. Waiting does suck.
Wine helps too 🙂
He knows it has to happen….I just hate waiting. I hate knowing he has had the ring all year. I get angry and impatient and its not fair on him. Grrrrrrrr.
at least you know he has the ring! The closer you get, the harder it is!
@OmigoshesGrrrl: I agree with you! At least he even HAS a ring!! J doesn’t have one at all, and I’m going nuts.
My advice, like everyone else’s, is just to keep busy. Find a hobby that’s JUST for you, and you only. For example… I’m trying to grow my hair as long as I possibly can. That is taking up a lot of my time. I go to websites, forums, everything and anything I can get my hands on that gives me tips about hair. I can’t remember the last time I actually visited a wedding website (other than this one). And it’s actually working! I’m not going crazy with ‘wedding fever’ anymore.
You could always take a night school class of something fun… I dunno. What ever your interests are, get into that more. It will work, trust me!!
Kind of what the ladies above me are saying too. I just try to distract myself from thinking about it. It’s no fun thinking about how SO hasn’t done it yet, and it stresses him out because he feels overly pressured when I talk about it. I either just shut my trap when I think about it when we are hanging out, or I think about details for my new job!
Good luck! The waiting sucks, but at least we have good men to look forward to sharing our lives with!
I found this on pinterest, and it has definitely given me different perspective on waiting….
So find something that you enjoy! Like the other posters said, adopt a hobby or a new goal (non-waiting related) and get your mind off the waiting. It has helped me!
I concur with PP… At LEAST he has the ring. I’m sure he’s planning something or just a little slower (slight cold feet). But he’s made the first big step, purchase, and commitment to buying the ring. Although I would be a little ticked that he’s kept it for so long. WOW a whole year. I don’t get that part.
Definitely focus on non wedding related things. Start savings (that’s helped me a lot). Hobbies, hanging out with friends or alone, shopping (always helps) at least try to buy yourself something each month you wait.
*yikes- he has had the ring for a year now…. and still hasn’t asked? I would go crazy too- good luck OP
He has had the ring since Christmas. Driving me crazy….and its a family heirloom from my mother so they are all constantly asking ME whats going on. I wish I knew. I am plently busy enough…I work from 5 am to 5 pm 6 days a week. Its all I think about. I just want to plan the wedding and get it over with. I even sneak on to WB in work time!!!
I DO like the idea of buying myself presents for waiting!!
@ruby13: So I know how you feel. My boyfriend proposed on our 5 year anniversary!!!! I was waiting from year 1 lol! My advice is truly don’t pressure him. It is so tempting, trust me, to say “oh I love that ring!” or ask about the marriage proposal. If you truly and honestly think you willl marry this man, then only bring it up lightly, but not as pressure. Tell him that you can see yourself marrying him, but don’t ask when he will pop the question, cuz’ it makes them feel like a.) you are so available they can do it whenever they want, thus waiting forever to do so and b.) that you are pressuring them so hard they feel like you are going to be demanding.
So I waited….and waited….. and waited…………………………. I tried not to pressure him, I would bring it up, and so would he… and then I decided that every time I started stressing over it I would do something productive right then and there. I started taking fitness classes, and working out, going out with friends, shopping— anything to train my mind not to dwell on it. A couple monthes after I started that, he proposed!
Maybe it was because I was putting other things first, and it showed I was still independent, or maybe it was just timing. either way, it took my mind off things, it is sooooo hard to wait, I know!
So everyone says being busy and getting hobbies help, and its true, but doing something productive, right then and there when I started really stressing about him proposing was key for me….
I hope it helps…
Also… (I love statistics) if you have been with a guy for over two years, and you are over the age of 20, the chances of him asking you to marry him are 90%. That always made me feel better, lol!
What are some ways I could maybe approach it with him without being pushy?? We have talked about getting married this year but I feel like we’re running out of time for that.
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