(Closed) anyone had doubts about getting married?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, I was passionately against marriage (for me) up until six months ago, so even though I’ve since inexplicably done a complete 180 on that, it’s still a bizarre adjustment. For me it’s important not to freak out about the “what ifs” that the future holds and to instead remember that I want to celebrate my love for a wonderful man who’s made me consistently happy for the past four years and who is the best friend that I cannot imagine being without. I can’t tell what will happen in the future so i won’t even try to. This brings me peace in my decisions. The future will bring what it brings but today I am ready to commit (even though it does end up costing us four arms, seven legs and half a head of hair in stress).

Post # 5
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748 posts
Busy bee

I did have them. I still have doubts about getting married sometimes (though not to him anymore, I’m pretty sure he’s the one for me). I don’t really believe in “the one”, I believe you meet someone you click with and feel real love (which you also have to build). Then I believe it’s a constant work in progress to make your relationship (and marriage) better every day. In a way it’s a choice every single day. My parents have a wonderful marriage so I was hoping I would find someone who would complement me the way they complement each other, but instead I found someone who is very different from me but we have grown together to complement each other very beautifully. From the beginning I felt such fire in my heart I knew he had to be such an important person in my life. So… what it really took for me to get rid of the doubts was to recognize that it was not supposed to be all easy and dandy. It’s going to be hard, and the more hardship you encounter and deal with in the beginning, the more you learn to communicate better and build a stronger relationship. We were very fortunate to hang on to each other through good times and bad so far, and now I’m confident we can overcome anything because I know we will never give up and always work as hard as it takes, giving each other the respect and love that we need.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have doubts that we’ll make it. And I am very against divorce. I look around seeing so many couples getting divorced and its easy to doubt that Fiance and I have what it takes. So It makes me doubt marriage in general.

But we made it through a lot and we are still so in love. Nothing could ever break us… so that gives me hope that nothing will. I know we’ll have our hard times but we’ll just have to work through them like we have in the past. It’s not gonna be easy – no marriage is-  but he’s worth every minute!

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