anyone had guests that did not show up in the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

yeah it does. We had a whole family cancel last minute (on a WEdn for a Sat wedding) for an impromptu family vacay. My husband was kinda pissed (his family)

We also had like 4 or 5 “oh i’ll be there!” then they never showed. as far as I know, only one person had a truly good reason–her son was in the ER! Everyone else just poofy disappeared or something. Things happen I guess! I’m one of those people that when something goes on my calendar, I GO, i dont’ “trade” events for other things.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think about 40% of my guests didn’t show! I was pissed. I even had two RSVP’s in the final week before my wedding and I was stressing about the numbers pushing well over 100. Little did I know, that I really didn’t need to worry about too many people but instead I should have worried about overspending on way too many favors, food, cake, and alcohol for those guests that ended up not coming.

You never will know a final guestlist until they’re there unfortunately.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think there’s no stopping it – someone’s bound to flake.  I wouldn’t stress it too much.   Easier said than done, right?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i remember about 18months ago as we (i was a BM) were walking to the cars to go to the church the brides phone rang with a cancellation – basically the guy thought it was too nice a day to go to a family thing and cancelled his 2 seats

i think getting some on the day cancellations is the norm these days – rude but sadly the norm

@hcitton… 40%!!!!!!!!  thats seriously ****ed up

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes, unfortunately it is normal to have people not show up even after reserving a yes.

Of the guests that did not show up there was only 1 that I noticed. It was my friend from HS. Before the wedding, I didn’t receive a text or a phone call with her reasoning as to why she wasn’t there. She is the only friend I have known for a decade and she didn’t come to any of the bridal events so I was a little down. When I returned home after the wedding, I found an email from her explaining that she contract MRSA the week of the wedding. YIKES! That would explain why she wasn’t there and I am OK with that, I just wished she would have called me. Oh well!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

At least you’ve gotten some notice for the cancellations.  We had about 10 people RSVP yes and just didn’t show up.  No notice, no follow up afterward, nothing. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My sister had a few people not show up to her weddding who RSVP’d, but it was only like 1 or 2 couples. My Mom noticed right away because she was super-on top of things and had gone through all the trouble of memorizing everyone’s names and relationship to the couple. I thought that was kind of messed up, they didn’t even have a reason.

Also, my friend had a couple not show up b/c they were fighting. I was like – I might be a littlie niave b/c I’m not married yet, but what married couple fights so bad that they have to miss a wedding?? I mean, can’t you agree to disagree for a few hours and suck it up? My fiance and I fight sometimes but it’s NEVER bad enough to miss something and usually resolved within a few minutes.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I had this happen with one person.  My boss had RSVPd for 2, but at the last minute, their sitter fell through and her husband had to stay home with her son.  Luckily, she let me know about a week in advance and I was able to make the change with the caterer.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@ eloping: no kidding! And A LOT of people were late so for the first hour I was thinking the thing was going to be a huge disaster. My aunt and uncle got food poisoning, my good friend/co worker had to end up working, etc, my other close friend “thought” she couldn’t bring her kids even though her invite clearing said “and family”… good grief.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think we had about 5 or 6 people who didn’t show. A couple people got sick, one guy couldn’t get out of work. I know the money adds up, but I think its something that just happens some times.

I’m suprised 40% of yours didn’t show though, hcritton! That’s just nuts!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

We didn’t have any last-minute cancellations, but we did have two no-shows (who had childcare issues) and a couple who had to scoot out in the middle of dinner (again, childcare issues). 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We had 185 RSVP yes (we only invited about 160, which tells you how many people decided to add their entire family to the invitation…my mom thought it would be rude to say no) and then only about 140 show up.  I was pissed…I had increased the servings on our cake and the food quantity at the last minute because all these people had said they would be there.  We also had to add five tables (which includes the chair covers and new centerpieces).  Basically these extra people cost us quite a bit more money.  There were probably about 15 to 20 people who only came to the ceremony.  I couldn’t believe that people would be so passive about it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t have anyone that told me only a week ahead of time, but I did have two couple just not show up at all!  i was really disappointed, becuase I noticed the escort cards still left on the table halfway through the night.  We also had a couple of unexpected guests so it almost evened out at the end of the night.

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