People who tend to be negative towards parenthood confuse me. Yeah, I know about the diapers, sleepless nights, terrors of childhood. I nannied for families for years- been there, done all the negatives without the positives of parenthood (very hard job, by the way!).
Out of all the comments we received from people during our engagement/early marriage one was recurring among many- don’t rush into kids. Wait years to have them. Enjoy the travel and time you have without them.
Um yeah, but really? We never had a honeymoon, money to travel or even a wedding that happened to be remotely happy. The happiness we HAVE found is in each other and starting our family together. *eyeroll*
Often though, I find the people who say these things are general Debbie Downers, have failed marriages and kids who hate them- or are single and bitter that others have found their soul mates while they are alone. No offence to anyone who is. I just know that this can fuel a lot of negativity revolving a pregnancy or engagement.
I’m often stuck in the middle between wanting to tell people who will be iffy for us and getting it over with- or actually staying blissfully ignorant and keeping the pregnancy a secret.
Edit: this also reminds me of mommyjacking I’ve seen on stfuparents blog. Happy status from single friends- oh you should have kids, they are the best ever (comment from susie sweetheart)
status about finishing grad school – congrats, oh so-and-so had their first poop today, so proud!
status from tired friend with no children- wait til you have kids, you’ll never sleep again!
What so-and-so is wearing for halloween- I’m going as a tired mom with nose wipes and stroller!
God. SO annoying. I told hubby if I ever turned into that to ban me from all social networking. ick.