Post # 16
I told my Maid/Matron of Honor I didn’t want a surprise because I wanted to make sure I looked nice haha but she is a traditionalist and so is my mom so they said it must be a surprise. They said I just have to look good every weekend until my wedding day haha. Lukily for thme I do enjoy surprises so I’m rolling with it. I am from the East Coast too, maybe it’s a thing here? Very interesting..
Post # 17
I only know the date and the place – no other details I’m fine with that as I prefer to not be completely surprised!
Post # 18
I’m from the east coast and I’ve only heard it done once, in the last 10 years (my memory). The bride was supposed to meet a friend/bridesmaid for drinks. She showed up in a t-shirt and shorts, with no make-up, and lots of photos were taken. I almost felt sorry for her – she looked a bit bedraggled.
Except for that one exception, in my family/social circle, we don’t do surprise showers. A few birthday parties, but that’s it. I’m not a fan of surpsie parties, in general. My bridal shower was in the late 1970s and it wasn’t a surprise; neither was my baby shower, 5 + years later.
Post # 19
Never been to a surprised one. I have heard of it but I think it’s a rare. For the most part, I think the bride needs to know so she can be totally free that whole day and look her best.
Post # 21
I’m another who hasn’t heard of a surprise shower. For me or any of my friends/family. I wouldn’t want to be surprised. (I live in central CA if that makes a difference)
Post # 22
Washington State here and have never heard of or been to a surprise shower! =) I was glad to know of mine, I scheduled my trial hair/makeup for that morning- gave me something to wear it too instead of going home and changing back into my usual sweatpants attire!
Post # 23
The only “surprise” shower I had was at work. They all threw a little party for me in the lunchroom the week before I got married. It was really sweet. But they do that anytime anyone gets married/has a baby.
Otherwise no. I don’t even get how surprise showers work unless the host somehow has access to the bride and groom’s complete guest list. I had 2 showers thrown for me and not only did I know about both of them, the hosts had to ask me for guest lists and contact info for everyone.
Post # 24
I’m also East Coast (grew up in MA, live in DC) and I’ve never heard of a surprise bridal shower either. We planned mine in advance on a day convenient for me, my girls, and my Mother-In-Law who had to travel a significant distance to be there.
Post # 25
How strange! I’m in SoCal now, but I grew up on the East Coast and haven’t heard of this! It’s always interesting to learn new customs. 🙂 I think you’ll be fine insisting on not
being surprised though, if you would prefer to be in the know.
Post # 26
Oops, I voted wrong, mine is not a surprise. There was no question of it being a surprise, surprise showers are not common in my area, its common to figure out a good date for the bride to be. I don’t know many details about the shower but they’ve kind of asked what I want for food, drinks, cake so there won’t be much surprise.
Post # 27
I’ve never heard of a surprise shower–I had two bridal and two baby showers and I’ve attended dozens and dozens of showers, not one was a surprise!
Post # 28
I’m from the East Coast and have never heard of a surprise shower. The “activities” at my bridal shower are a surprise to me, but I know the time, date and guest list.
Post # 29
I am not having a surprise shower. I work over night shifts, and also weekends, so I have to make sure I will be off on the right date! I have definitely heard of surprise showers (my mom had one!) but haven’t seen many of them recently. I’m also on the East coast.
I don’t think it’s wrong at all to want to know when/where it is, so that you can be prepared for the day!
Post # 30
From Southern California, and this is the first I have ever heard of a surprise shower!