(Closed) Anyone have a bridal shower that wasn't a surprise?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Were you surprised for your shower?


    No, I requested to not be surprised

    No, I found out accidentally

    No, surprise showers are not custom in my area

  • Post # 16
    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I told my Maid/Matron of Honor I didn’t want a surprise because I wanted to make sure I looked nice haha but she is a traditionalist and so is my mom so they said it must be a surprise.  They said I just have to look good every weekend until my wedding day haha.  Lukily for thme I do enjoy surprises so I’m rolling with it.  I am from the East Coast too, maybe it’s a thing here? Very interesting..

    Post # 17
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I only know the date and the place – no other details I’m fine with that as I prefer to not be completely surprised! 

    Post # 18
    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    I’m from the east coast and I’ve only heard it done once, in the last 10 years (my memory). The bride was supposed to meet a friend/bridesmaid for drinks. She showed up in a t-shirt and shorts, with no make-up, and lots of photos were taken. I almost felt sorry for her – she looked a bit bedraggled.

    Except for that one exception, in my family/social circle, we don’t do surprise showers. A few birthday parties, but that’s it. I’m not a fan of surpsie parties, in general. My bridal shower was in the late 1970s and it wasn’t a surprise; neither was my baby shower, 5 + years later.

    Post # 19
    5404 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    onceuponadream:  Never been to a surprised one. I have heard of it but I think it’s a rare. For the most part, I think the bride needs to know so she can be totally free that whole day and look her best. 

    Post # 21
    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

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    onceuponadream:  I’m another who hasn’t heard of a surprise shower. For me or any of my friends/family. I wouldn’t want to be surprised. (I live in central CA if that makes a difference)

    Post # 22
    614 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Washington State here and have never heard of or been to a surprise shower! =) I was glad to know of mine, I scheduled my trial hair/makeup for that morning- gave me something to wear it too instead of going home and changing back into my usual sweatpants attire!

    Post # 23
    6946 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    The only “surprise” shower I had was at work. They all threw a little party for me in the lunchroom the week before I got married. It was really sweet. But they do that anytime anyone gets married/has a baby. 

    Otherwise no. I don’t even get how surprise showers work unless the host somehow has access to the bride and groom’s complete guest list. I had 2 showers thrown for me and not only did I know about both of them, the hosts had to ask me for guest lists and contact info for everyone. 

    Post # 24
    13904 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m also East Coast (grew up in MA, live in DC) and I’ve never heard of a surprise bridal shower either.  We planned mine in advance on a day convenient for me, my girls, and my Mother-In-Law who had to travel a significant distance to be there.

    Post # 25
    2403 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    onceuponadream:  How strange! I’m in SoCal now, but I grew up on the East Coast and haven’t heard of this! It’s always interesting to learn new customs. 🙂 I think you’ll be fine insisting on not being surprised though, if you would prefer to be in the know.

    Post # 26
    2200 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Oops, I voted wrong, mine is not a surprise.  There was no question of it being a surprise, surprise showers are not common in my area, its common to figure out a good date for the bride to be.  I don’t know many details about the shower but they’ve kind of asked what I want for food, drinks, cake so there won’t be much surprise. 

    Post # 27
    7806 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’ve never heard of a surprise shower–I had two bridal and two baby showers and I’ve attended dozens and dozens of showers, not one was a surprise!

    Post # 28
    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’m from the East Coast and have never heard of a surprise shower. The “activities” at my bridal shower are a surprise to me, but I know the time, date and guest list.  

    Post # 29
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I am not having a surprise shower. I work over night shifts, and also weekends, so I have to make sure I will be off on the right date! I have definitely heard of surprise showers (my mom had one!) but haven’t seen many of them recently. I’m also on the East coast. 

    I don’t think it’s wrong at all to want to know when/where it is, so that you can be prepared for the day! 

    Post # 30
    90 posts
    Worker bee

    From Southern California, and this is the first I have ever heard of a surprise shower!

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