(Closed) Anyone have a civil ceremony before the church ceremony?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
35 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

First of all, Congratulations!


In France you have to do a civil ceremony in the town where you live. So we’ll be doing a civil ceremony in Paris first. The church ceremony will be in his parents’ town a week later. It does seem a bit odd but if you want a church ceremony it’s because you believe in the religious significance of that ceremony. Your civil ceremony won’t change that. It will still be special!

Post # 4
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hi ccflowers, We’re having a civil ceremony and then a church blessing and I think of both these occasions as being special in their own way.

The civil ceremony is showing your dedication to one another and that you are prepared to be joined together according to the law of the land and the church blessing symbolises your commitment to each other as a couple through your faith in one another, I see it as kind of going to your Father and declaring that you love someone and him giving his approval (or blessing).

The reason we chose to have them performed at different times, is that my Dad has a bit of social anxiety and wont be able to make my wedding day, as he finds it difficult to be around too many people.

So we spoke with our Minister and she agreed to perform the blessing when we return from our honeymoon. It will only be my Dad and my Grandmother (his Mum) there on the day of the blessing and it’s something special that I can share with him, that he can enjoy and be part of.


Post # 5
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Like Mllfrog, here in the Netherlands every person (including the Queen), has to have a civil ceremony at city hall before they can go on to have a religious ceremony.  So like you, there are thousands of people in the world doing their civil ceremony first, and then their church wedding at a later date. 😉

Post # 6
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We have to do it too!

We’re getting married in Brazil, and the bureaucracy there is ridiculous:  you have to apply for your license in person, WAIT 30 DAYS, and only then pick up the license that gives you 60 days to get married.  We WISH we had that much vacation time!

So we’re having a civil ceremony here in July, as a formality, when my parents are in town visiting.  The church wedding will be our REAL wedding, with all my friends and family.  We won’t wear our wedding bands until after that, and won’t call each other husband & wife until after that.  A piece of paper doesn’t mean much to us, but it’s having our vows in front of all the people we consider special the most important part.

We only told our parents, and my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I’m not telling anyone else because I don’t want them to feel it’s a sham wedding — it’s not.  For us, November 27th will always be our wedding date and anniversary.

Post # 7
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thank god for this message board- I had the lid off the crazy jar for a while, you guys helped me put it back on.  The Knot has been brutal with this very question- apparently Europeans are much nicer ; ) My husband and I were married in a civil ceremony on December 16th as a formality and our plan prior to getting married was to have the big ceremony/celebration in August.  For us, we call eachother husband and wife, but we didn’t exchange rings and I haven’t taken his last name yet and won’t until August.  We just want to be able to share the experience with our friends and family and I don’t think that is unreasonable. This is not a jab towards those who partake in a traditional wedding because that’s great, if everything goes as planned but that isn’t always the case, life happens.  So I’m excited about our wedding/vow-renewal whatever you want to call it in August! 


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