(Closed) Anyone have a feeling they won’t ever have a baby

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

First of all, I just want to say good luck! I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage, but don’t lose hope! Stay positive  πŸ™‚

I don’t know if I’ll ever have a baby- I like the idea of it & think they are very cute, but I am so terrified at the thought of childbirth & don’t know that I’ll ever want to have children because of this!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

first off, I want to say that I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I cannot even begin to image what you are going through. BUT you are not alone πŸ™‚ {{HUGS}}

We are not TTC but I have this fear that there is something wrong with me. I also cannot imagine it. BUT then again I could not imagine myself getting married and being this happy and blessed. My husband has always wanted kids (I only have since i found the love of my life :D) and even he said…”If we cannot have kids then I guess God wants us to adopt for a reason :D). 

I truly belive that everything happens for a reason. Good luck to you and hang in there!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m sorry for your miscarriage, I hope you recover well from it. I know that must be hard. To answer your question though, yes. For a few reasons. I have PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome) but also sometimes I just get this awkward feeling that it will completely inhibit me from getting pregnant, even though it’s not supposed to be “that bad” in this stage. It’s one of those things where you just have to let your body and God decide, I guess. It’s a little upsetting though. We aren’t TTC yet.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Miscarriages are incredibly common – it isn’t a sign that you won’t be able to have kids, it’s just a sign that you are average. 15%+ of pregnancies end in miscarriage!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yeah, I feel like this.  I have PCOS like ameliabedelia.  Might I suggest reading Fertility, Cycles and Nutrition by Marilyn Shannon.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

For some reason, I always worried I would have trouble getting pregnant. I had a cervical cancer scare 5 years ago (it wasn’t actual cancer, it was the step you’re at before cancer but I still had to have pretty aggressive treatment) and they told me the treatment could harm my chances of conceiving and carrying to term. And then I found out last year that my doctors at the time may have jumped the gun on that treatment, so I was pretty pissed about that. On top of these troubles, I have always been wildly irregular and one year, went almost three months without a period for no apparent reason. Being a worrier, I was always anxious I would have troubles. I am currently 22 weeks pregnant.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, yes yes.  I’ve always worried about this for various medical & family history reasons.  I hope I get proven wrong, but we’ve not been trying NOT to get pregnant for about 6 months now and so far.. nothing. 

Hopefully we all get that joy!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes, I most certainly have. Hubby & I got pregnant after TTCing for 4 months, found out at 6 weeks then lost the baby at 9 weeks exactly. :'( It was so hard and I also have type 1 diabetes. Which makes it THAT much harder and makes me feel like my sugar will NEVER be good enough to get pregnant again. ((((HUGS)))) 1 in 4 pregnancies end in a miscarriage and with no medical problems in the past you should be A okay as long as the doc says so! πŸ™‚ Don’t give up!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Yes, but for different reasons from you guys.

I’m 40 and will be 41 by the time we start TTC.

I have a very laissez-faire attitude towards getting pregnant because right now, I can’t panic about ‘what ifs’ but this laissez-faire attitude didn’t come without some effort.  I promised myself and my sanity I would take it one step at a time.  If we can’t get pregnant naturally, I am hoping hormonal therapy will work. If that doesn’t?  I will try IVF.  If that doesn’t work?  Adoption.

I am lucky and am still very fertile.  So I do pray I stay that way for 8 more months

Good luck girls!  I wish you guys all the best :)))

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I have that feeling almost every day these days. It sucks. Having a baby consumes my thoughts so many hours of the day. First I had a miscarriage, than fibroid removal along with removal of right tube, then cysts so had to go on birth control, now two ruptured cysts after an IUI 2 weeks ago due to Clomid. Just one road block after another for me. But if you don’t have anything actually wrong, than I wouldn’t be too worried about conceiving again and delivering a healthy baby! Miscarriages are very common, so that alone shouldn’t scare you about getting pregnant in the future. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yup, even though I currently have two kids, I still feel like I won’t have another.  (My mother claims I won’t have another because SHE didn’t..and she didn’t because they didn’t try for another… I really hate that woman… often…)  

We’ve also been trying for about six months now and I’m pretty sure this month was a bust, also.  And we won’t be trying again until next year in March/April due to the wedding.  It REALLY sucks because I had no problems the first two times!  

difficulties in TTC doesn’t just happen pre-baby, it can happen post-babies.  and regardless of when it happens, it REALLY REALLY SUCKS!

good luck and just know there are lots of options out there.  Drop by the Infertility thread (part V) on here and you’ll find there are A LOT of us who have problems and who are there to support everyone, no matter what the circumstances are. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@Zinzerena:

I hope you prove her wrong!! ((HUGS))

My Mum went through a depression and during that time told me that I should get my tubes tied since I will be a horrible mother.  And when I showed her a photo of a dress and said that I would love something like that as a wedding dress she said that by the time I get married I’d be too old to wear a dress like that.. if I get married at all.  πŸ™

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I always felt that way too. I have taken a lot of meds my whole life, and my husband has crohns so he’s also been on a lot of meds. They can really screw with your body, so I just didn’t know what would happen when we tried to have a baby.

Well we did end up getting pregnant soon after TTC but miscarried. That was a big long process (had lots of crazy bleeding and two D&C’s), and then we got pregnant again the first month trying after that. In the beginning I had some bleeding, and I freaked out. I was so sure that I just wasn’t going to be able to carry a baby to full term, ever. It turns out the bleeding was a bubble in my placenta, and the baby is fine. I’m 32 weeks pregnant now, and It’s still hard for me to be positive and think that she’ll be ok until the end, but feeling all the kicks in my belly really help!

Good luck, and try to stay positive! I know, easier said then done.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Oneeleven: thank you!!!!  are you sure we don’t have the same mother?!?!?!?  My mom told ME that I’d be a horrible wife, that I couldn’t cook or clean or anything!!!  (((HUGS)))

 Sometimes, mother’s SUCK, don’t they?  AND, you ARE getting married and I’m sure you’ll look gorgeous in your gown!!!!!  (Is it the same one you told her?  ’cause that would just be AWESOME!!!  did I mention I’m all for rubbing things in my mom’s face? and anyone else who is like that? πŸ˜‰ )

 @colors: congrats!!!!!

I, also, miscarried last june/August (miscarried in june, infection in august, go figure), and didn’t even KNOW I was pregnant.  So that hasn’t helped my fear of not being able to have another.  

All we can do is keep trying and look to each other for support, advice, and figure out which doctors can help and which method to go with.  

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