(Closed) Anyone have a friend that’s in “ring competition”?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ouch…sounds like she’s a spotlight lover.

I’m sorry you’re going through this with your friend. I’m of no help right now in terms of experience. 

Just let her talk herself up, eventually she’ll run out of things to say or opportunities for her to show her ring off. You’re only responsible for your own actions, so just be the better person and just enjoy your gorgeous ring that your husband had gotten you!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

My new line for people who feel the need to make rude comments is, “Everyone does what’s best for their situation.” So when she makes those comments about how she doesn’t like round or why you had so much say in your ring, just let her know that everyone does what’s best for themselves and let her squirm. B/c what kind of comment is she going to have back to that? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry to hear you have a friend like that, but sadly….that’s a lot of the girls I know. And the main reason I don’t have many girl friends. Girls are very competitive and can be very snarky. I just shrug it off and tell myself that it’s a compliment that they feel the need to compete.

Sadly, my BFF makes snarky comments like that ALL the time. It bugs me from time to time, but I remind myself that’s just her personality.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That’s too bad that your friend feels like she’s in competition with you. I have a friend who tries to make me feel bad because I have a smaller ring. I have a ring of decent clarity, good color, etc and it’s a half carat. My friend has a one carat (it’s VERY cloudy, visibly included etc) and she brags about the size of her diamond. I’m educated about diamonds thanks to the bee and know that I prefer a smaller rock of better quality than a larger cloudy stone. I just smile and say wow your ring really is big, what a lucky girl…no need to stoop to her level of try to justify why I chose a smaller stone

P.S. She’s in competition about ALL aspects of our weddings not just the ring…ugh! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have this friend. I have this friend so much- I actually asked my SO (her FBIL) to make buy me a center stone with the same qualities as hers. Silly? Yes. Reasoning why- she is always comparing and contrasting whatever she has with whatever I have. And I am always the ‘loser’ in her eyes. I know its dumb but I would be hurt very much if she was always talking down about how she has better clarity blahblahblah at EVERY moment possible. I feel your pain girl!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MrsB99:  How annoying. I’m so not looking forward to being in a lifelong competition with this girl..I’ve really distanced myself from her in the past few months. It’s so childish to base a life altering desision like having a baby on what someone else is doing. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012
Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012
Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

so…. why exactly do you consider this person a friend?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

There weren’t bitchy comments (between the women) involved, but when we got some new neighbors, the wife supposedly made her husband get a really expensive upgrade to her e-ring because my mom’s ring was big and pretty. (Which we all found pretty hilarious, because the ring my mom wears is glass or CZ)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

a) she isn’t a friend. 

b) if someone did this around me more than once, I’d say something along the lines of “you sure love talking about my ring, are you jealous?”

I’ve got no patience for people who are blatantly rude.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

WOW, what a B!  She’s what I call a “one-upper.”  I say, just laugh it off on how silly she’s being because she’s clearly insecure about her ring while you’re in complete bliss. 🙂

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