(Closed) Anyone have a friend they want to strangle? NWR Rant!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

It sucks that your friend doesn’t want to take the time to listen to you, but expects you to “uh huh” “oh that’s terrible!” “oh, wow, you should be mad!” every time she has a bad day 🙁

It sucks to feel like your friendship is not reciprocated and eventually, it causes great damage to the relationship.

Depending on how close you are, maybey you could talk to her, and try to make her see your side of things. If she’s been a friend for years, it might be worth it..but if she’s more of an acquaintance, you might just move on.

I don’t have a friend that’s really annoying, but I do have an I-thought-she-was-a-good-friend-at-one-point who now does not try to communicate with me at all.

I have stopped contacting her, because that’s the only way we would ever talk…the bad thing is, she was a bridesmaid for me just a couple weeks ago!

Eh, well….people are weird.

Post # 4
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have a friend like that! UGH it’s so annoying! I love her, but damn.

Post # 6
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ohhhh MissAsB, do I ever! I know exactly what you’re talking about. I have a friend that does the same thing. Never listens to a word I say but expects me to hang on her every word – all of which are negative. It’s such a toxic friendship. I’ve really taken a few steps back from her in the last year because I just can’t take it. She’s SO selfish and self-absorbed it is like mind-boggling. I seriously don’t understand how a person can be so oblivious. Anyway, my only advice is to take her with a grain of salt and maybe distance yourself a little bit. It has helped me. I was for a long time really bogged down in HER negativity – like I don’t have my own stuff going on! – and once I reevaluated and saw that she brings nothing to our friendship and I bring everything, I decided it was time to take a step back. I don’t want to end the friendship but I can’t be there for her everytime something pisses her off because, UM, everything pisses her off.

Stay strong, girl!

Post # 7
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh. Sounds like she does need a shrink bc anyone who has to listen to all that crap all day deserves to get paid for it. 

I do have one friend that is kind of like that in terms of the friendship being lopsided. She has had a genuinely hard year and I have REALLY been there for her (which to her credit– she has acknowledged and thanked me for). Now that I’m engaged and buying a house though… she is really not super interested. I think part of it is probably that it is hard for her to see all this good stuff happening for me while her life is still in a little bit of personal turmoil (which is why I give her a pass on it and continue to be friends with her)… but I can’t say that it doesn’t irk me that with everything going on in my life she so rarely asks me how things are going with ME. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Certain people just thrive on drama and negativity and they constantly complain about stuff but make no actual attempt to fix what is wrong because, I don’t really know – maybe they want attention? maybe they are bored if they don’t have some sort of crisis or drama going on? I don’t get it, personally, but I’ve seen it in action more times than I care to think about. The most frustrating part for me is that I’ve spent countless hours listening to all the complaining and trying to be a good friend and giving the best advice I can and trying to be there but she doesn’t listen or heed any advice from anyone on anything ever. It’s like, if you’re just going to keep doing what you’re doing WHY ARE YOU COMING TO ME FOR ADVICE? Argh.

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