Anyone Have a Husband/Fiance Who is Better Looking

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Aw, I’m sorry.  I know of others who have had it happen to them. One couple it is because she is bigger and he is not at all. The other couple is because he is cute and she is such a tomboy they wondery how they are together.  It’s hard, but in the end it doesn’t truly matter because you said yourself, “My husband thinks I’m gorgeous and sexy and makes me feel loved and valued everyday”… so focus on the positive! That’s great! Ignore the shallow people.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Well, I don’t think it’s about looks but I’m frequently told how lucky I am to have such a great guy and people are constantly gushing about what a catch my husband is (generous, outgoing, super funny, big-hearted, easy-going) that it just makes me feel like such a drip or some kind of bitchy outcast. I know how crappy that can be, so I’m sorry.

I guess I just try to keep in mind that most people, when they tell me how great he is, are trying to pay him a compliment, not me an insult. Some of your examples were more personally hurtful to you, but I truly don’t think that the majority of those comments are made in direct comparison. I think about how many people I’ve told that they have good-looking/great partners and I definitely don’t mean for it to make them feel worse about themselves!!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My previous boyfriend was told he could do better.  That wasn’t fun.  But then, I was told the same about a different relationship.  Whatever.  I don’t think of any of it when I look at my hot husband!  lol  Don’t let anyone steal your happiness.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@cerenatee:  ok I am a pretty round girl lol. I am a total chunky monkey. Fiance is tall and semi built and here I am this short round chunky little brown girl lol (im mexican and italian) I do think this sometimes but oh well! He loves me for a reason. We have had our bumps in the road like any couple but we always manage to repair things and have been together almost a decade.

here is Fiance

ignore his stupid looking mustache! i hated that thing! he got rid of it though and just has the other facial hair the same as it is in this photo.

Don’t ever feel bad about yourself like that. Your Fiance picked you for a reason, so obviously he loves you, big small short tall whatever. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I can relate.  I was married once before and my ex-husband was so handsome.  6ft, caramel skin, baby face, super fit.  At the time I was 300 lbs.  When people would see my ex they were shocked for sure, I guess not sure what they were expecting to see.  But even though we did work out, all the while we were together and even now (we remained friends) he told me how beautiful I am.  I have lost 140 lbs since we were together but when we were together I was his first “big girl”.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

People can make you feel as bad as you allow them to make you feel.  He thinks you’re sexy?  Check.  But more importantly, how do you feel about yourself?  I have been told that my guy is ‘not my type’ because I normally ‘like pretty boys’ which is so not true.  My ex husband is gorgeous physically and I guess people assumed because of him.  However, I would take my SO over my ex any day of the week.  I could care less what people think.  I know how I feel about him and it matters not what others think. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When people see pictures of my husband their reaction is usually… Oh WOW! In a really surprised way and they then proceed to gush about how handsome he is. Your husband thinks you’re beautiful and sexy, so that’s how you should feel. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cerenatee:  I always think this way about my and my Fiance, so I totally get what you mean!

But, let me just say, I went back and stalked your photos, and you.are.gorgeous.  Like, holy crap gorgeous.  Just sayin’. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t really think people have said it outright but I think my fiance is better looking than I am. He’ll ask me if guys hit on me when I go out for drinks with my gfs and they don’t. Maybe once or twice since I started going to bars! Yet when he goes out with his friends, he will try to be a wingman and the girls say they would rather dance with him than his friends (I’ve witnessed this lol).

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@cerenatee:  Yeah my Fiance says that guys definitely think I’m hot, they are just too intimidated especially when it’s a group of girls. I say Whatever! I don’t want them coming up to me anyway bc I’m happy with who I’ve got at home!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes, and for me, unfortunately, it’s always been that way.  I can be cute on my best days but on my worst, I’m a wildebeast.  What I love about my fiance, and all the guys I’ve loved, is that they never seem to notice the difference between cute and wildebeast.  They just see something else… and that makes me feel so happy.

Fiance, though, is the first guy who is in a totally different social circle than me and I don’t always know how to handle that one.  I’ve always been social butterfly, sports loving, concert attending, bar hopping, beach laying, preppy, Southern gal…  

He, Bless him, is a complete, total, self-identifying nerd and his friends are as well.  They play card games and go to conventions and watch anime.  So, oddly, I feel more out of sorts and self-conscious around him and his friends than I ever have around any other guy.  They’re just so different from me.

They’re also pretty well accomplished.  Two are recent Harvard PhD’s… my friends still laugh at pictures of Prince Harry’s bulge on the internet gossip sites. Ha.  ๐Ÿ™‚  Just saying, I understand that feeling… it’s not a good feeling.  I wish I could be more comfortable about myself when I’m with him and others. Working on it!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cerenatee:  Keep in mind that many really nice looking guys have no idea how good looking they are. I have dated several really great looking guys and they were pretty much unaware of it. On the other hand, I have dated an average looking guy who thought he was extraordinary looking.

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