(Closed) Anyone have a ring with visible inclusions??

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
283 posts
Helper bee

@Firemansgirl:  hi, tagged to follow, are you talking about your e-ring? what are the specs, usually shouldn’t see inclusions..do you have a pic?

Post # 5
283 posts
Helper bee

@Firemansgirl:  oh in the second pic you posted, is it the small “blotchy” thing you see when you look head on? its not too noticeable in the other pics or in pics i guess.

is that your band, may i ask the width of both your e-ring and wedding band..IT is a beautiful set for sure!

Post # 6
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sorry that you are feeling this way! ๐Ÿ™ I have been right where you are! My ring had 2 big black spots that I didn’t notice until having it almost a year. Not sure how I didn’t notice! They were so visible!! I must have been too happy to notice! ๐Ÿ™‚ But, I was terrified to tell FH because I didn’t want him to feel like a failure, or feel like I hated my engagement ring. I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t love it as much as I had before.(I hope that’s not awful)  I went back and forth on what to do, and finally decided that I had to tell him. I know him well enough to know that he would want me to tell him how I felt instead of me dislking a part of my ring for the rest of my life. So, I told him. He was upset and felt like I had predicted, but I am so glad I told him. You are the one wearing the ring for the rest of your life, and you should be happy with it and proud to show it off to everyone! ๐Ÿ™‚ I vote that you tell him. I ended up with a whole new (bigger carat size, but same design) ring. That I absolutely adore! I was fine with keeping the original, but he wanted so badly to make it ‘right’ that he went out and picked out the new one, and made sure there was nothing ‘wrong’ with it. (It ended up being more cost effective to purchase a whole new ring than to get just the ‘bad’ diamond replaced..That’s another story though..) Even if you have to keep it and can’t get a new ring right away, or even just exchange the diamond I think it’s best you tell him. He will appreciate the honesty even if his feelings are hurt for a little while. Maybe you could upgrade in a few years?? If he is anything like my fabulous FH he will do what will make you happy. Good luck! I hope this helps!!

Post # 8
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I had that same problem.  I picked out a diamond I absolutely loved.  I had to have this diamond.  It was so sparkly, clear and the stats were better than most of the ones they had.  Plus the cut and color were pretty good.  I never noticed the small spot it had.  I guess my Fiance noticed it, but I never did.  About six months after we purchased it, I was noticing something on it.  I cleaned it and realized it was an inclusion.  I have a small one in mine, but honestly when its sparkly you can’t see it.  I am the only one who has actually noticed it.  I have family who have looked at it and have never found it.  I guess it is in the right place.

If you are unhappy with it, I would say something.  Its the diamond you might be keeping for the rest of your life.(saying might because I don’t know how you and your Fiance feel about upgrading)  I told my Fiance and we discussed it for a while because I didn’t think I wanted people to see a black spot on my diamond.  Honestly, no one has cared, noticed and I don’t feel I would be happy getting rid of it.  Other than that dot, its an amazing diamond.  Good luck!

Post # 9
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you do tell him, I would start the conversation by asking him to look at the diamond and see if he notices anything. I thinK that would spark curiosity and work him into the topic. 

Post # 10
5317 posts
Bee Keeper

On the plus side, more visible inclusion types, such as carbon spots, tend to affect the lightplay less. If you stay in the same clarity grade and go for less-visible type inclusions, it will have more clouds in it, and those will blot out the scintillation that makes diamonds so special. IMO that’s worse than a little speck here or there!

Mine is VS1 and even I can see the inclusion in mine if I look very carefully. I don’t mind it, but I think if you really want no visible inclusions and no clouds dampening lightplay, you have to go to VVS2 or higher, and that’s often very costly. It was not worth the cost, for me.

Post # 11
1887 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I guess I am in the minority here, because my diamond has some really teeny tiny specks – like specks of dust really – and I don’t mind at all. In a way I quite like it because it means my diamond is real and unique. I don’t think an inclusion is the end of the world – it’s still the diamond he gave to you.

However, I do appreciate that once you’ve noticed something it’s hard not to see it again. If it really does bother I agree with PP it’s best to tell him rather than having negative thoughts about it.

Post # 12
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a couple of feather inclusions in my diamond and you can only see them when you are centimeters away…who is ever going to be that close inspecting my ring? I was a little bothered by it at first but now I don’t mind them. i will know if my diamond ever gets switched on me Tongue Out

Post # 13
1790 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Small inclusions do not bother me as long as the stone still sparkles like crazy. If the stone has a superior cut  and good color, sometimes small visible inclusions will be outshown by sparkle. Its just up to u as to what u want bec u have to live with it, but again, small inclusions don’t bother me one bit as song as the  cut and color are graded high. To me, its natural beauty. And as MissRhino stated earlier, a character trait inside the stone will help u feel confident that u always get YOUR stone back from cleanings and inspections.

Post # 14
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

My e-ring has an inclusion in the center diamond too.  Neither of us noticed it until after the proposal.  I, of course, was the first one to notice, while scrutinizing it (who could not stare at their diamond, lol?).  I was slightly upset, because at the time, I thought it was very noticeable.  I did show it to Fiance and he was upset that he didn’t pay more attention when he purchased the ring.  We decided to keep it as is and upgrade down the road 5-10 years after we’re married.  I hardly ever think of it now and can only see it if I’m searching for it.

This pic was taken yesterday by my phone camera after we picked up from the jeweler (had to resize it down to a 5).  I can’t see it looking straight down at it, only from the side when I squint, lol).

Post # 15
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Mine has a couple. However, you can’t see them because of the size of the diamond. It’s .25c, so it’s difficult to inspect without magnification.

Post # 16
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

You have a billion year old, one of a kind, valuable diamond. Their “birth marks”  make them unique, like us. So much in life is perspective. Congrats on your lovely rings. ๐Ÿ™‚

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