Post # 1
My fiance and I have been playing with the idea of having a second wedding reception after our “main” wedding with ceremony and reception. He moved from Europe to Vancouver as a child, and his ENTIRE family (aside from parents) are still overseas. While he would be fine with a small-ish wedding with only a few family members, he’s concerned that it will be important for his father to have a lot of his siblings (my fiance’s uncles/aunts as well as cousins) attend. Given the cost of flights ($1200-1500 round trip), and financial circumstances, my finance is concerned that his father may end up flying in a bunch of guests.
As an alternative, we thought that maybe we (along with his dad, and maybe my parents if they want) should fly over there after the wedding, and have a second reception in a restaurant or something. Obviously this would still be expensive, but it seems like the least expensive way to have his extended family included in the day. This also seems like a good idea as it is VERY unlikely that his grandmother would be up for making the flight here, so this would be away for her to be ‘involved’ in the wedding.
Anyone have a similar experience?
Post # 3
You know- I think that is a great idea. And it doesn’t actually need to be expensive if you can find a host/hostess and keep the menu simple. You could share some wedding video and pictures of your reception and friends over here. If religion is a big part of their life, maybe they would like to have the family pastor or priest bless the meal and your union. I think it is such a nice idea.
We are having a second reception of sorts back at our hotel where we have a large part of the topmost floor blocked off. At the Hiltons, this floor is called the executive level and there is a suite up there with a side bar that I will stock with champagne and wine. Since the wedding reception will be essentially dry, anyone wishing to hang out longer will be invited to an afterparty in the suite.
Post # 4
We are in the exact same situation! We are doing a second reception in Italy for my family. To have all my family fly to the US would be too expensive, and not very efficient when you think of where your guests will stay. We decided to treat it as our honeymoon. With 2 weeks allotted for our vacation time, we will split the first half in my hometown in southern Italy, with the reception at the end of the first week, then the second half we will go to Rome, in a nice romantic hotel, and have our true “honeymoon”. In Italy it is more “traditional” to give the couple money as a wedding gift. We will use that money to pay for the reception there. I think it’s the best option for all the families to be happy and to feel included in our wedding celebration. Besides, 2 receptions is twice the fun! Good Luck!
Post # 5
We’re having a destination wedding in the Dominican, and then a second reception for those who couldn’t make it about a month after returning. It’s mainly for our grandparents who can’t travel.
Post # 6
My sister in law is Miss Pretzel–look up her blogs on this idea–they will have a 2nd reception about 4 months after the wedding
Post # 7
We have a lot of family and friends in Europe. Many people are going to make the trip to California but there are some that will be unable to make it. We are considering doing a second reception. More like a dinner with those who will not be able to make it.
Post # 8
We are actually having a second reception. My hometown is 9 hours from where we are having the wedding (which is nothing compared to Vancouver to England!) but my dad’s family is a lot older and can’t make the trip. Because it is very important for my dad to include his family, we are having a second reception a couple months after our wedding back in my hometown. We aren’t doing it right away because I want time to get pictures back and our wedding video to take and show them all. We are having a brunch at a local restaurant in one of their conference rooms and going with a simpler menu to keep the cost down.
Post # 9
I’m not sure if you thought about invitations yet, but we are using a different RSVP card for those who live in my hometown, with the option to attend the actual wedding reception or the one back home. I want them to know up front that they don’t have to stress about trying to make the trip and that we are having another option for them.
Post # 10
We’re doing a 2nd reception in my hometown, too. Hawaii families tend to be HUGE, & with the economy the way it is, I just couldn’t bring it upon myself to ask all those family members to shell out thousands of dollars to fly to LA, stay for 5-7 days (and pay for their own meals & car on non-wedding days), & fly back. So, since this year we’re going to Hawaii for the holidays, we decided to invite the majority of my family members to a 2nd reception in Hawaii. FI’s immediate family & those who aren’t invited to our LA weddings are invited, too. His family may make a whole family vacation out of it. Plus, the extra 6 months gives us time to save up to make it a really fun party.