Post # 1
I was just wondering if anyone has BMs getting married within a couple months of your own wedding. I have been wanting to ask one of my close friends to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but she is getting married 2 months before me. Do you think it would be too much going on in a short amount of time? Have any of you gone through this either as a bride or a BM?
Post # 3
One of my bridesmaids is getting married in May 2011, while I will be getting married in January 2011… I picked my date before she did, and I am also a bridesmaid in her wedding. It’s been a lot of fun so far, picking out wedding stuff together, and having someone else with you going through the same that you can talk to.
Post # 4
I got married on 8/21..got back from my honeymoon yesterday…going to Vegas in 10 days for my MOH’s wedding…def alot, but her wedding isn’t traditional so there was none of the normal bridesmaidy type stuff..
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
Mine aren’t as close as 2 months. I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding this month, then my wedding in April 2011 and then a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding most likely October 2011. I’ve had a blast since they are as excited to talk about details as I am.
Post # 6
One of my bridesmaids is getting married September 17th and our date is November 21st this year. My date was sent 11 months before hand, she had 30 days to plan her wedding. (they are actually have a sacramental marriage) (2 years ago was married by JOP and now having a church wedding) But all the same planning her is just condensed.
I wouldn’t be too worried, but it would depend on their personality.
Post # 7
I was the Bridesmaid or Best Man in my close friend’s wedding – hers was a month ago and mine is in 3 weeks. 2 of her BMs are also BMs in my wedding (including her). I asked everyone to be in my wedding before she was even engaged so they all knew what they were getting themselves into! However the 2 BMs are now complaining (to me) about how they are broke and blah blah blah……
Post # 8
One of my bridesmaids got married on July 31st. I will be my MOH’s Maid/Matron of Honor at her wedding in March.
Post # 9
I am getting married April 30th and one of my BMs just got engaged and will be married just a month and a half later…on June 18th and i will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding. We have both been waiting for over 6 years so there are only happy feelings for each other! We have had fun sharing ideas and shopping together!
Post # 10
I am a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding about two months before my own and I wish that I weren’t in the situation. Not only am I not close to the person I am being Maid/Matron of Honor for but I feel like her wedding problems (awful future in-laws) are really sucking the fun out of my process. Most days I feel pretty selfish for feeling this way but there are a number of issues that are compounding my stress. Unfortunately I made her my Maid/Matron of Honor in response to her “generosity” and now I am really regreting the decision. All of this because our weddings are just a few months apart.
In all honesty it is a very stressful way to plan a wedding and I would seriously consider all the issues around your situation. Consider how much time and effort you are putting into the wedding, travel distance, employment, education (kids or fiance in school?), and her current situation. I have found issues with all of these are making me really hate the situation.
**Note to readers: I was originally going to be unable to attend her wedding due to my location and about two months ago she told me I was going to be her Maid/Matron of Honor no exceptions. Her fiance is making the situation miserable on everyone and I feel her making me Maid/Matron of Honor was a last ditch effort to “force” her fiance into being more “cooperative” Travel expenses, employment, my fiance’s schedule, and my own wedding planning are making this even more of a nightmare. Moral to the story: make sure you feel comfortable with making the commmittment (or if they “insist” back out promptly). I have a feeling this is going to end up being very hard on our friendship.
Post # 11
I think if you at least give her the option, she can make that decision. Don’t be offended if she says no or does say yes, but then gets a little stressed. Try to keep in mind she will be getting married before you. As soon as she does she will be able to relax and then enjoy yours!
Post # 12
My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married in May 2011 (about 2.5 mo after me). She set her date after I asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor so I guess she didn’t think it was too much 🙂 Even if she’d already set the date though I’d have still asked her and given her the option.
Post # 13
One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month after me. I’m also one of her bridesmaids.
Post # 14
I have a bridesmaid getting married 2 weeks before I am and haven’t had any issues about it. I’m not asking them to do too much though, so it’s not a big deal to me. She picked her date after I had already asked her to be a part of our wedding. It’s been fun to have someone to chat with about the planning
Post # 15
My Maid/Matron of Honor got married one week after my wedding. I’m not gonna lie, it was pretty stressful at times (we had to rearrange our honeymoon so I could be her MOH), but looking back I think it’s neat that we got married one week apart, in the same church.
Post # 16
Yup one of my MOH’s is getting married a month after and then her reception is three weeks after that and i’m one of her bm’s, another bm is getting married june 2011 i’m a bm in hers, and another is getting married july 2011 and i’m bm in hers as well!