(Closed) Anyone have BMs getting married around the same time?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One of my BMs is getting married the month after me! we aren’t going on our Honeymoon till the following spring so no need to rearrange anything. We have been helping each other out with a lot of our projects I actually like having someone to talk wedding to who actually cares and understands. 

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

One of my BM’s is getting married 3 weeks to the day after me. So far it has been fun swapping emails about ideas, sales, and stress! The only thing that has been a little stressful is dealing with colors – she is doing purple and I am doing purplish pink. She selected her colors before me, but my wedding is before hers so I am trying to be careful and not upset her by being too similar.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor got married in two weeks ago and I am getting married in two months.  I was in her wedding as well.  No problems/issues for us but you both have to be understanding the of time commitment to your own wedding versus their wedding. 

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One of my BMs is getting married about a month and a half before me and I am also one of her BMs.  Her wedding is also in another city about a 12 hour drive or an hour and a half flight away too, but our FI’s are best friends so we wouldn’t miss it for the world, even though it’s cutting close to our date which we had planned first 😉

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor was just proposed to last Monday! Her Fiance told me that he bought the ring about a month before my Fiance proposed, and he finally got around to giving it to her :)! She’ll be getting married about a month after me. I am SO excited to plan things with her. We’re going to go dress shopping for her Thursday and we’re working on some DIY signs for me Tuesday. I can’t wait! Smile

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding 3 weeks after my own. It doesn’t bother me right now. I asked her to be in my wedding, too, but because my wedding is a destination wedding while hers is in our local area, I totally understood why she declined to be my bridesmaid.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

One of my BMs is getting married Oct 23rd and I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor (I’m getting married Nov 20th). She asked me hypothetically speaking if being a Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding would be too stressful for me 🙂

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve got ya all beat! haha In my case my best friend had gotten engaged back in Feb. and then spent several months trying to find a venue in Portland but couldn’t find anything. Well then I got engaged in July and have known since I was little that I want to get married on my parents farm by the river but I told the Boyfriend or Best Friend that she could pick her date first since she had been engaged longer. She ended up decided that the farm would be a special place for her too since she practically grew up there too and asked if she could get married there too, I said sure but I want to be the first one married there….long story short since we both have half of the same bridal party who also are out of state we decided that she would get married the week after! She’s (one of) my maids of honor and I am (one of) hers! So far it has been fun bouncing ideas off each other and doing research! And our weddings are turning out completely different in every way, from colors to food so that makes it more interesting. To top it all off another one of my bridesmaids is getting married a month later and I am in her wedding too. Needless to say I think I have permenant wedding brain going on!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My good friend and Bridesmaid or Best Man is getting married three weeks before me, and I am also a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding.

She was engaged before me and had her wedding date set for a while before I did; once I got engaged, I actually sat down and talked with her about what would be doable so we could both be in each others weddings. We have always had the running joke that we’re twins/soul sisters/what have you.. we both knew we wanted spring/summer weddings, both are self-funding our own weddings (hence the 2012 date), we even coincidentally have incredibly similar e-rings that we both picked out for ourselves, separetly. That being said, while I’m sure it will be stressful when the time comes, we are both really happy for each other. My FH and I even ended up pushing our planned date back a week (was hoping for 6/09/12.. love my multiples of 3!) so that she would be back from her honeymoon and able to help me out the week leading up to my wedding.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor got married a month before me and it was fabulous!

Ya it was a lot but getting to share the wedding planning experience was amazing!!!! And because we have the same friends we had a dual bachelorette party in NYC!

I would ask her and let her decide whether or not she would like to be involved in your wedding letting her know that you understand if she says no due to her wedding. I would be upset if a good friend didn’t ask me due to an assumption I wouldn’t want too. My good friend’s weddings are important to me no matter what else I have going on in my life at the time!

Good Luck!

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

One of my BMs is getting married the month before me.  I don’t foresee this being an issue at all.  Originally, she was considering getting married the week before me and even then I don’t think it would have been a big deal.  She got engaged ~2 months after I did and is lurking on these boards somewhere ;).

I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding as well and I don’t foresee it causing any problems.  We have 2 overlapping BMs, but I wasn’t going to give them “tasks” or whatever so it shouldn’t be an issue.

I got engaged in April, and since then 5 other people in my 50 person class have gotten engaged and are all getting married next summer!  Crazy huh?

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

One of my Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married October 2011 and I am getting married April 2011. No issues here. We both are completely different personalities- my colors being Turquoise and Lime Green- hers being Camo.. so we are just having fun planning. I have been helping her and she has been helping me.

🙂

I am the MoH in hers too.. only I won’t be a maid!

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was supposed to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in wedding 3 weeks after mine, and she was Bridesmaid or Best Man in mine.. but I honestly couldnt spare the time or money to deal with another big wedding so close to mine, and there was drama and disagreements. So I stepped down from hers and suggested she do the same

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married 3 weeks before me. It’ll be a busy month but I’m sure everything will turn out great!

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi,

I just found out my bridemaid is engaged and wants to get married two months before my wedding. My Fiance and I were recently complaining about financial issues about the wedding. She asked for me to be her bridesmaid. I am super happy for her, however I’m worried this will cause a further strain with our financial issues.

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