Post # 1
Hi! I need some advice or just a good smack so I stop over analyzing. 🙂
We have been constantly hunting for a venue for our wedding and reception. We found one that seems to give us almost everything we need at an affordable price. This is a March wedding, so it will not be that warm outside.
Here is where I struggle to make conceptual sense:
1. One location offers a lobby for the cocktail hour, dining room for the reception, and attached terrace for dancing. In my head, I think it is the oddest thing to have the doors open to the terrace to create “one room” (there is still lots of walls as there is a huge fireplace between the set of french doors). How does everyone watch the first dance? Will I freeze all my guests when they are inside or outside? How do you announce the wedding party if the DJ is in the next room over? Do you think I am nuts for thinking any of this and telling myself that it is all impossible? 🙂
2. The other location big enough for all the guests has the dance floor in the same room with the tables (yay!). They did offer to use a smaller space that is not attached to this one for the cocktails; guests would need to walk outside from the cocktail hour to the reception hall. Is that odd? I may have to give up the idea of the separate locations, which I can definitely come to terms with.
My mom passed away some time ago so I kind of feel at a loss of who to talk to about wedding plans. I decided to turn to the boards to seek some type of guidance and support in this process. So, thanks for any help!
Post # 3
I went to a wedding on a boat so everything was on different levels. People did not leave their seats at the dinning table to watch the coupel’s first dance. It was at an odd place during the meal, right after entrees were served. Not many people even danced since it was on a separate level. Most people just stayed on the dinning level and mingled for the night.
Post # 4
Thanks. That is somewhat what I was worried about, too. I didn’t think many people would leave the room to dance and began to wonder if a DJ would even be worth the investment. If it was warmer outside, I’d assume people would be outside sitting at the tables and chairs around the pool area.
Post # 5
I went to a wedding where it was in a converted mansion and everything was in different rooms.
The cocktail hour was in 3 smaller rooms and outside. Dinner in a large room. Dessert buffet and dancing in yet another area that was a room that kind of opened into a glassed in terrace.
The waiters ushered people from the cocktail to dinner. When dinner was over an announcement was made in the dining room (they used the bands mic) that dessert was in the other room. That room had a few tables, but not a ton so people either relaxed and ate dessert or danced. They did the first dance and cake cutting etc after dinner. Speaches were made during dinner.
It was a bit different, but worked fine.
Post # 6
I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, I can only imagine how hard that must be at this time in your life. Hopefully the bees can help with some of your decisions.
I’ve been to two different weddings that were arranged this way. The first one didn’t work, because they were not well organized. The second worked really well because they were very organized. I think that the PP who mentioned that no one left their seats to see the first dance was because of the fact that it was at such an odd time in the events of the night, rather than the fact that it was on a different floor.
We are doing this, we are having our reception at a villa, which is set up like a large house, with the pool area down the hill from the main house. We are having a 1.5 hour aperitif / cocktail session by the pool and pool bar area, then we are moving up to the villa area to have dinner and then back down to the pool and bar area where there will be dancing, drinks and the cake will be served there.
I think the key is to make sure that the dancing area is very well arranged with lots of seating and comfortable areas where people have the option to sit and mingle if they don’t want to dance, while still participating in the dance area.
Post # 7
For our wedding, we had all the tables in one room and the dance floor/lounge in the next room over. They were separate by two big doors on either side of a fireplace (so sounds pretty similar to your option 1). We were worried about having stuff in two different rooms but we worked around it with the following scenerios. Dong the order in this way made things flow pretty smoothly. Also one good thing about having the dj/dancing in a separate room from the dinner is that people can get away from the loudness if they want (especially if you have older guests they may appreciate this).
We had cocktail hour and then immediately after the dj told everyone to come into the dancing room. (You could have your bridal party or family show people where they need to go too). Then we had our first dance, parents dances then so it kept people from having to go back and forth later in the night. After the dances, the dj announced for people to go into the dining room for dinner. Then we had the speeches, cake cutting, etc in the dining room. (The dj provided a mic for that so it worked out well — you could see if your dj could do that and have speakers in the dining room you’d be in). Then after dinner the dj told everyone that the dance floor in the other room was open for the night for dancing or something like that to get people to start dancing.