- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I have always been very open to adoption. If I have trouble conceiving, I would much prefer to adopt than go through things like IVF and even if I conceive no problem, I’ve still be interested in a mixed bio/adopted family.
S/O and I have discussed this and we are on the same page, which is good because unwillingness to adopt would be a dealbreaker for me. Being a mother is non-negotiable for me even if it doesn’t happen biologically. We would be interested in both private agencies and the foster system.
But I am wondering how difficult it is to adopt. Neither of us have any sort of criminal record so that wouldn’t be a factor (and we intend to keep it that way!) What I’m most worried about is religion. I’m agnostic and he’s Muslim and it seems that many adoption agencies won’t consider non-Christians. Is it less of an issue through the foster system?
Also, it looks like we might settle in NYC. Would it be a problem if we lived in the city instead of the suburbs? I’d move to the ‘burbs if we had to, but I hate them.
We’re still a several years away from even thinking about kids, but all the preggo lady pictures on my FB have got me contemplating this and worrying that I won’t be able to conceive OR adopt.