Post # 1
I just finished our last wedding reception, and for some unexplainable reason, I feel depressed! I guess I had so much fun planning the wedding, I am sad it’s over.
Anyone feel this way?
I’m a little embarassed to be feeling this way!
Post # 3
I was most emphatically not depressed. I had thought I might feel a little "at a loose end" for a while – like, what do I do now? But we had gifts to open, cupboards and closets to reorganize so as to be able to put all our gifts somewhere, over a hundred of thank you notes to write… plus a huge list of things we hadn’t had time to do all spring and summer, because of the wedding (and the move, and trying to sell one house). Things like having friends over for dinner, going for long-distance bicycle rides, just curling up on the couch and watching a movie, sleeping late and making a fabulous breakfast and eating it in the garden, going to wine-tasting events (we live in an area with dozens of good wineries), going to concerts, working in the yard/garden… We loved planning our wedding, but it really sort of took over our lives, and we missed the things we normally do. We got through the last month by telling ourselves over and over again all the things we were going to do when there was no more painting and cleaning and picky little repair projects (house) or envelope stuffing and favor wrapping and meetings with the caterer and endless list making (wedding) to do!
It is the end of something that occupied most of your time for months, so I suppose it’s normal to feel a little sad. But I think you should grab your Darling Husband and make a list of all the fantastic things you now have time to do together, and with your family and friends, and get back to the goodness that is your life without a huge event to plan! You’ll feel much better very soon.
Post # 4
It was a combination for me. I was happy to "let the wedding go", to stop having to keep track of so many things, to be able to stop obsessively checking a million web sites to make sure I was finding all the best ideas, to be able to relax a little bit and have other things fill my time, to go to the gym because I felt like it, not because I had to look as good as possible.
However, like suzanno said, I was sad that the build-up was gone. It had been over a year building up to this great party/day that was so focused on me and my fiancee. And then it was ALL OVER, just like that. I even found myself looking forward to my wedding day, after my wedding. I would have to mentally correct myself, "no, it already happened!" I think with time you can get over it, but you have to get some distance from it and when you find other things to focus on, you’ll be sad less and less!