(Closed) anyone have their relationship hit a rough spot then get better than it was?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Unfortunately, it looks like Sept. is going to be a bad month for Darling Husband and I. I won’t elaborate, but I’m hoping we come through much stronger as well.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel like that always happens, I think relationships grow in fits and starts like that.  We never broke up, but we’d have stretches where all we’d do is fight and bicker, then get through it and be better than ever.  Making it through the hard times makes the relationship stronger.

Post # 5
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It always happens with us. Once we get through the tough spots we understand each other better. 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is all too familiar. About two years ago, my fiance and I broke up after a pretty nasty argument. I can’t even remember what the argument was about, but it was basically the straw that broke the camel’s back. At that time, our relationship was pretty rocky and we bickered and fought about almost everything. Our break up helped us both to realize how much we took each other for granted and gave us time to think about what we really wanted out of life and our relationship. Long story short, we got back together after two weeks and haven’t looked back since. We are more happy that ever and rarely argue anymore and I can honestly say that I have found the one. Goodbye really was a second chance for us : ) 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Fiance and I were high school sweethearts.  We dated for two years, but things went downhill toward the end, and he ended up breaking up with me right after our first semester of college.  We ended up basically not speaking with each other for two and a half years, and it was another two after that before we saw each other again.  When we did, though, there was immediately a spark.  The time apart gave us a chance to discover that even though there were other fish in the sea, we really wanted each other, and there wasn’t anything better out there.  It also gave us a chance to just grow up and become the people we needed to become.

We’re at another rough patch right now.  There isn’t anything wrong, really, but we’re both tired and stressed and haven’t been as good to each other recently as we should.  However, we KNOW that we love each other and that we’re worth fighting for.  Things aren’t great right now, but we’re also both very confident that things will get better because we love each other and we’re working to make them better.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My story is embarrassing and I don’t even know if I want to share it without being slammed, but not to extend on it when I first met my husband I was young and stupid and I broke up with him. I found him again after 2 years and one miserable relationship to find out that he was the only one I wanted. Needless to say I was glad he took me back, but it wasn’t easy because of what his life was when I waltzed right into it. When we started we hit a bad patch again because his most recent his ex girlfriend would not leave him alone and I was not comfortable with her trying to be friends with him. After a few fights he finally understood where I was coming from and why and it meant more for him to be with him than risking our relationship over a past ex.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes. My boyfriend and I had a rollercoaster March. It was terrible and awful, and, admitedly, I still recall it and freak out every now and then. But some people need something bad to happen to realize how good things are, or how good someone is, for them. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yup. We’ve been through some majorly rough times. The first one was right at the start of our relationship, and we’ve had two huge incidents (neither of us did anything wrong to each other, but shitty family members ended up costing us about 50k) this year already and we are WAY stronger because of it. Force to be reckoned with no doubt…

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My husband and I almost broke up about 2 weeks after we moved in together. We had a fight one night (we weren’t communicating well) and broke up, but it was late so I said I’d leave in the morning, and in the morning he said he wanted to work it out. We did, and haven’t really fought since. This was 3 years ago.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My fiancé and I have been in a rough patch for 3 weeks or so. I’ve been questioning and rethinking, but it’s led to a lot of talking and growing up for both of us and I feel like there’s finally light at the end of the tunnel. 🙂 He’s been so supportive the entire time and it’s really reinforcing that our relationship can last forever 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, yes, yes!!  My bf and I took a ‘break’ in mid-June, and reconnected in mid-July.  Even though it SUCKED, it really was the best thing that happened to us/for us.  As other posters have stated, it made us both realize how much we love one another.  Furthermore, our communication has never been better. 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a rough patch last summer, mostly having to do with me getting so angry that he hadn’t proposed yet (and it had been over 4 years). All of our friends were getting married and it really hurt as we had been together longer and had such a great relationship. We started fighting all the time, and it usually stemmed from my frustration. We would talk about it but then it would happen again. At one point it got so bad that we almost broke up but I knew that he was the one and we just had to work through it. I will honestly say that after he proposed things did get better but that time in my life is still a sore spot to me.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Let’s just say Darling Husband was in a bad place in his life when we started dating, so there were several commitment related freak-outs, him distancing himself, me clinging, and all the good stuff.  We had breaks here and there. We worked through it, became happier than ever, and got married.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have gone through really rough patches, but we never broke up. Not even for a day. That’s how I knew he was more mature than others I have dated – he wasn’t going to throw in the towel over something not super serious. After one particular rough patch we had a few months ago we started to understand each other a LOT better…and we haven’t had any big blowouts since then. Truthfully, I think our 2nd year together was harder than the 1st and now that we are past that point and know each other even better, we are fine.

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