(Closed) Anyone have to visit the family and STILL sleep in separate rooms?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 4
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Nope, but that is wild! Do you tell your parents you’d prefer to sleep together? I can’t believe it makes them uncomfortable even after you are married! I can definitely see why you don’t want to visit more often!

Post # 6
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

LOL – the stork 🙂 

Post # 7
14985 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

that is weird.  i’d think after being married, sleeping in the same room and bed would be ok!

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We don’t really like our families, so when we do visit them, we always stay in a hotel to avoid the awkardness.  Maybe you can do that.  A cheap motel has got to be better than a night apart covered in cat fur

Post # 9
1102 posts
Bumble bee

I would stay in a hotel as well. My grandparents are pretty famous for not letting couples sleep in the same bed or room until they are married, but seriously, after the wedding – I couldn’t imagine them trying to keep couples apart. Like someone else said, how can you expect grandchildren otherwise 🙂 Both Darling Husband and I are allergic to cats and we could never sleep on a couch with cat fur on it – he would probably die of an asthma attack. So yes, another vote for a hotel.

Post # 10
5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

That is INSANE.  I can understand it before the wedding, but after you’re married?  Never.  Have you talked to your parents about it?

Post # 11
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s a little odd.  We’re not allowed to sleep together at my in-laws house either, but there are comfortable options available for both of us.  Haven’t been there since we got married, but I would think things have changed.

Post # 12
4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We weren’t allowed to sleep together at my FIL’s because we’re not married yet, however it’s fine at my parents. It’s weird that now that you’re married you can’t sleep together. I’d just sleep at a hotel if you can and avoid the akawardness altogether.

Post # 13
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We aren’t married (yet!) but we do have to sleep in seperate bedrooms when we visit my aunts/grandparents, even though we live together. I just do it out of respect at this point. My parents live nearby, so we’ve never had a need to stay at their house. But when we’re married, it’ll be one bedroom!

Post # 14
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think I would have said back, “bc we are married and when we visit you do not respect that.”

I also vote hotel staying. Blame it on allergies and then don’t budge!

Post # 15
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

Separate before marriage but together is accepted now by my parents.  Pretty funny seeing as how we lived together prior to the wedding and they came to visit us while we lived together and we slept together while they were in our home.  Oh well.  I guess one day I will be a parent and make silly requests, too…

Post # 16
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We sleep in separate rooms, but only because my old bed isn’t big enough for both of us. I agree about the hotel idea; if his parents ask why you’re not staying with them anymore, you can bring it up.

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