Post # 32
Member513 posts
Busy bee
- lisalulu
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
Veganglam, it’s my parents actually. They’re funny.
Thanks for laughing about everything with me bees. Humor softens it all.
(Closed) Anyone have to visit the family and STILL sleep in separate rooms?
posted 10 years ago in Married LifeMemberPost # 33
Member2530 posts
Sugar bee
- clarebee
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Honestly I would just be straightforward – you are married adults. I dont really understand parents not letting couples sleep together even before marriage. Fine if you want to control your kids that no longer live in your house but if your grown child is in a relationship and they are an adult they should be able to make their own decisions…..I guess Im just not old fashioned and have a hard time understanding it!
Post # 34
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Sugar bee
- clarebee
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
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Post # 35
Member523 posts
Busy bee
- riley jane
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’m curious, did you parents explain or give a reason why you should sleep seperately post-wedding? How did it come about in the first place?
Good luck talking to them. 🙂
Post # 36
Member513 posts
Busy bee
- lisalulu
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
I spoke to the parents. They have agreed to change the house a bit and make a dedicated guest bedroom with a queen bed. Thanks Bees! In fact, my mom put my girlhood bedset out on the street with a free sign and a nice lady came by and picked up the entire set for her two year old grandchildren! Yay!
My grandmother passed recently so they put some of her furniture in my old room after my pleading and insistence.
I think my parent’s realized that we won’t visit if they didn’t finally make a change. We’ve been married for almost a year and we’ve been home three times without them making a change and Mr. LuLu on the couch. (Mr. LuLu is cheap and won’t pay for a hotel or will make money an excuse not to come)
But really-I’m the youngest. They still see me as a little girl. My room has ballerinas on the wall and had not changed since girlhood. Mr. LuLu has slept on my family’s couch for YEARS.
Change is hard. Maybe my growing up makes them feel old. It wasn’t even a prudish sex thing totally. Yes, it grosses them out if we have sex in their house (me too actually). But that’s not why we would want to stay in the same room.
They still see me as their baby. Oh well.
Post # 37
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Sugar bee
- clarebee
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
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Post # 38
Member2379 posts
Buzzing bee
- picturemeurs
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I’m glad they opening up to change. Cause that was just so bizarre you’d have to sleep separately.
Post # 39
Member3253 posts
Sugar bee
- Greeneyedbabe86
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Haha this is hilarious!!!
My parents prefer that my fiance and I sleep in separate rooms when visiting them, but he’s 24 and I’m 22 and we are not yet married. I’m glad your parents are okay with the change! 🙂
Post # 40
Member903 posts
Busy bee
- MaybeeBecca
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Haha…..wow :-P. When we first got married, it felt a little weird for us to sleep together at someone elses house, especially at my parents, but it would have been weirder not to. We always sleep on the pull-out couch in the living room
Post # 41
Member167 posts
Blushing bee
- Cola262
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Sorry to bring up an old thread but I’d love some input. My Mother-In-Law puts us in separate rooms but I don’t want to say anything because the rooms only have twin beds and I know that could be a reason. I feel like visiting less. What to do?
Post # 42
Member11375 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
- Sweet.Sugar.Rose
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
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Post # 43
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Blushing bee
- Cola262
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
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sleep in his is sister’s old room on a twin mattress on the floor. (his sister visits too) He sleeps in his old room which is tiny and cannot fit a full mattress. Oh well, will it always be this way? Because they preserve their adult kids’ rooms so completely I don’t think switching rooms with the sister is an option.
Post # 44
Member167 posts
Blushing bee
- Cola262
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Anyone else with this issue? All of your in laws have a guest room or something?
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