Anyone have uneven wedding? (guest ratio)

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Nope doesn’t matter. Our split was like 80/20 haha because my home country is over 30 hours flight away (you read that correctly) and as a result only immediate family and get close friends could afford to come. The people i love most were there and I married my darling, all that matters! 

Don’t sweat it 🙂 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

My husband had four groomsmen and I had two and a junior bridesmaid/ flower girl. It honestly doesn’t matter.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We only invited immediate family to our wedding. Problem is, I’m an only child so my immediate family is just my parents. Darling Husband has his parents, two siblings and their spouses, and 11 nieces and nephews. So I invited my best friend, making my guest list 3 and his 17. 

Didn’t seem like a big deal. I didn’t mind at all.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My husband isn’t close to his family, at all. Plus they’re in the other side of the world while I’m very close to my immediate family and so is he. So it was 100/0 when it came to family lol. In the beginning of wedding planning it was really hard for me to accept it like you do now but in the end it’s his choice, he loves my family and he loves me so as long as he’s happy that’s what matters.

With friends we had many mutual friends but of our own separate friends he had a plenty more, which was fair.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

It’s no issue. 

He had two Best men. I had no bridesmaids. 75% of the guest list was mine. It matters not a jot. Everyone is there to have fun and partied into the night. 

Dont worry about it. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

happybee253 :  Most of the people in our intimate wedding is from my side, but that’s due to family drama on FI’s side. Out of 26 people, 5 are directly FI’s. However, in the years we dated, he has become very close with some of my family…so he knows / has a good relationship with all of the people we invited. I know it still stings him a bit to have some of those major people missing on the most important day of his life though…

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Terrible at math here but out of our 200 or so: Fiance has 40 or so people… the rest are my side….

*sigh* this is why when I said I wanted 85 to 100 my parents laughed as that’s easily our immediate family lmao….

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

happybee253 :  I’ve been wondering about this myself. Our guest list is 15/85 but we live in my fiance’s hometown and my friends and family are dispersed all over the country. I considered stretching my list to include more extended family, but figured why host folks I haven’t seen in a decade. That and they’re very religious and wouldn’t appreciate our secular wedding. Of the guests attending, I figure once they start mingling and having fun no one will notice the disparity and the ratio won’t make a difference in the end. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We’re from different countries and got married in my home country, so he had many fewer people there than I did.  It was fine!  We just had the ushers seat people evenly on both sides of the church, regardless of which ‘side’ they were on. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ours wasn’t even. But we love each other’s friends and family so it didn’t matter. We didn’t do bride and groom sides in the church apart from immediate family, it was just sit where you like.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No mine was like 70/30 my people to his. Fiance minded a bit at first, but my family is just a lot bigger than his.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

It really isn’t an issue if you two agree on the guest list and have a united front. We invited 202 people and only 30 were my husband’s guests.  He knew I had a lot more “obligations” than he did so it wasn’t an issue for us all at all. 

I was concerned about his family thinking I dictated the guest list to favor my side but my Darling Husband was great about communicating his guest list needs so it would eliminate any negative perceptions/talk. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

We’re getting married in my FI’s home village, on a different continent to where I’m from, so definitely the majority of the guests will be his. But the people most important to me will hopefully be there (parents, brother, a few friends) and that’s what matters!

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