Post # 1
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Busy bee
When I first got engaged, I knew I didnt have many close girlfriends to have bridesmaids. Well my Fiance wanted several groomsman so I agreed and invited a couple girls to be my bridesmaids. Well now due to one friends divorce and the fall out from that divorce, I have lost two bridesmaids, mainly because the divorce is due to infidelity and we have all had to choose sides. So as a result I would like to ask one of my maie friends to stand beside me at my wedding. He is really excited about it and wants to do it.
I’m just not sure how to handle the walking down the aisle thing…Obviously he won’t walk down with one of the groomsman. So how do we handle that part?
Anyone else been in this situation?
Thanks
Post # 3
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Helper bee
- Wedding: May 2021 - Our home and the two acres it sits on
Mrs. Avocado did… might check her recaps.
Post # 4
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Newbee
My best friend from college is going to be a “bridesmaid” He is really excited. We do not see a problem with him walking down with a groomsman…they won’t be linked so I don’t think it matters. What matters is that they are sharing your day and they want to stand up with you.
Good Luck!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I did, but it worked out since DH had a groomsmaid. But earlier in the planning (due to military changes our bridal party changed like, in the last 2 months) when there was only the groomsmaid, we just had 1 guy walking with 2 girls.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I asked one of my male friends to be an attendant, but he declined. He actually asked if I would make him wear I dress! Anyway, you could have all the bridal party walk out single file to avoid any uncomfortable pairings. Just have them walk a little quicker so it doesn’t take forever.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
My two brothers may be Bridesmen. Since we have more men than women, my brothers will go alone down the aisle, as will one of FI’s groomsmen… the remaining girls will be escorted by his other groomsmen. (FI wanted the girls to just walk down wiht a bridemsan/groomsman on each arm, but it seemed a little silly ;).
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
My ‘MOH’ is male – but we’re not doing the aisle thing with the elopement, so I’m not sure if I’ll be helpful. But I think it just makes sense to send him down the aisle with or not with the groomsmen and he’ll just join your side up at the altar.
Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
we had a female groomsman and one of my friends had a man of honor instead of a maid and it worked out fine!
in all the weddings i’ve been to latey, the men (groomsmen) file out first, then the bridesmaids do, so everyone essentially walks out single. but the groomsmen more or less walk out all together in a line whereas the bride’s attendants walk out one by one
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Ours is a same-sex wedding. When we first got engaged, we asked my daughter if she would be Maid/Matron of Honor, and my son if he would be best man. My daughter agreed, but my son said that a best man is a groom’s attendant, and there was no groom for him to attend. (He can be a bit pedantic!) He said he’d be happy to be “dude of honor,” so that’s what he is.
Honestly, you can do it however you want. He could walk by himself, or with a groomsman, or he could escort one of the mothers if they are not otherwise being escorted. This is not Noah’s Ark–the wp does not have to enter in opposite-gender pairs.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
This topic is Hilarious! Love it. My husbands best friend is a girl. He wanted her to be a groomswomen or whatever you call it, and I told him he was mad! She will be on my side….
Post # 12
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Busy bee
My fiance and I each have a guy and a girl on each side, as our maids of honor and best men.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Thanks for all the responses…you guys have been a big help in making the decision to have someone close to me on my side instead of just filling the space with another girl that i barely know.
I consider myself to be pretty liberal but for some reason I was hesitant to make that call without some reassurance. I’m sure Mom will have something to say about it but I’m ok with that.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I had a bridesman on my side, I had all the groomsmen walk in a line down the aisle and the bridal party, my side, walked slower and without partners.For the recessional my side walked back down the aisle and then the groomsman walked down the aisle.
Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
seriously it is not a big deal anymore!
our groomswoman was actually 7.5 months pregnant. if you look through our recaps, she was just so cute!
nobody cares anymore and the coordinators have seen it all, so they can easily shuffle your wedding party around for the recessionals and whatnot. =]
we just paired 2 girls up with one guy and he was pimpin’ down the aisle so our groomswoman could walk with her husband, a groomsman =]
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
2 guys in our bridal parties are very close friends of mine – they are walking and standing with the groomsmen, but when i asked all the BMs to be in the wedding i sent cute letters all in hot pink and they got one too. One of FI’s close friends (a girl) will be one of my girls. We’re staying with the traditional pairings for ease and because our numbers worked out.