(Closed) Anyone having communion as part of their ceremony?

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would love this in my wedding. I saw one of my pastor’s weddings on tape and it was so beautiful. I think they did this after they pronounced the marriage..their first act as husband and wife. I don’t know if I will have a unity candle..I think I may have to watch their ceremony again! I totally forgot in what order they did things. Maybe they had communion before they were married? Idk. I forget.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance suggested this and I think it’s a beautiful idea. I think we’ll do it in place of the unity candle as well. I feel more symbolism in communion than in lighting a candle. I’ve personally never seen it done in a wedding though. If anyone knows where there is a recording of a Protestant service including this I’d love to see how they arranged it. I searched for it on YouTube and was only able to find one example and it wasn’t very smooth.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

In our Protestant ceremony, our parents came up and lit the 2 side candles for the unity candle and then my husband and I took communion. After we ate the bread and drank, we lit the unity candle together.  During the time that it was happening we had a pianist play “Have Thine Own Way Lord” which really fit our idea that God brought us together and we wanted him to guide our new life as one. We did not offer communion to everybody and as we did these things, the pastor softly explained what we were doing and what it symbolized, how the communion was our way of showing that we would remember and follow God through all of our marriage, and how the unity candle showed the 2 families being united through our union. It was very peaceful and reflective. 

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My husband and I took communion during our ceremony after we lit the unity candles. We did it while my dad played a song that he wrote for me on his trumpet. It was really sweet, I’m so happy we had it in our ceremony. I would suggest white grape juice if you aren’t catholic 🙂 haha.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re going to have communion ourselves in our cermony and then have our pastor speak and pass out communion to everyone else to take as well. 

I have a question though…Do bapists believe that you have to be baptized to take communion?  B/c my best friend said she would have to be baptized to take communion.  I had to tell her the reason as to why you take it.  But encouraged her to do so if she wished.  B/c for me as a Christian whom attends Assembly of God Church, I hadn’t heard that before…but I know all religions are different.  So if anyone knows…Thanks!

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I always wanted to do communion during my ceremony, but not sure if I will now (I do not want the ceremony to be too long)

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

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@yearns4god:  Do bapists believe that you have to be baptized to take communion?

The requirements to receive communion vary by church is the Baptist denomination.  In some extreme cases, only members of that particular church who attend regularly are able to receive communion.  So even a baptized Baptist from another church visiting on a holiday would be excluded.

 

And these are old, but just to clear up a few things…

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@Magdalena: I know there are events where Catholic priests are allowed to co-preside with ministers from other religions but I think at most of those events there is no Communion.

This is a little vague, but Catholic priests are never allowed to co-preside with a minister of another faith for a wedding or Mass.  Another minister could perform one of the scripture readings or could provide a prayer after the wedding, but the form of marriage would follow the Catholic Rite of Marriage exactly and the priest would preside solely over the wedding.  Any deviation of that (such as another minister standing and receiving the vows with the priest) would be an invalid marriage (though you can easily find fake “priests” willing to do whatever you want – but despite what they tell you, it’s not a Catholic marriage). 

 

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@jenbrandner: Ours is a full Catholic mass as well…

People have mentioned the “Full Mass” several times.  I assume people are saying this to designate between a Nuptial Mass and a Rite of Marriage (which is not Mass).  However, while these two things are different, you’re married just the same under both and neither is “better” or “more Godly” than the other.

 

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@jenbrandner:  When both the bride and groom are Catholic, it’s my experience that they usually opt for a full nuptial mass with communion.  If one of the couple is not Christian, a lot of times they’ll skip communion to avoid making that person and their whole family “uncomfortable” at the ceremony.

If both bride and groom are baptized Christians, they can choose either a Nuptial Mass (with communion) or a Rite of Marriage (without communion).    Usually priests recommend a Mass when both are Catholic and no Mass when one is not Catholic (to avoid pointing out the differences that divide Christians today).

If either the bride or groom is not baptized, then the wedding must occur without Mass.  There is no option. 

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@yearns4god: Do bapists believe that you have to be baptized to take communion?  B/c my best friend said she would have to be baptized to take communion.

Well, nowadays there isn’t much continuity even among the same denomination, but I will say that I was raised in a Baptist church and every time we have communion the pastor only points out that you shouldn’t take communion if you aren’t a Christian. I took communion as a child (starting around 6 when I was saved) before I got baptized (at 12). Baptism, in our doctrinal statement, being a public declaration of your desire to live a Christian life (which a small child can’t really do), while taking communion means you understand and believe in the doctrines expressed (death/resurrection of Christ and the confession/forgiveness of sin) and are communing with the church body.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

we are undecided about this. we go to a Methodist church, so if we do communion it has to be for the whole ‘congregation’ too (all our wedding guests). The problem is that we have SOO many people who are not Christian, and I don’t want them to a.) feel uncomfortable not taking it. or b.) take it just to go through the motions, because to me it is a very sacred thing.

so i think I am leaning against it but I think my fiance is leaning toward it. that is one of the things we still need to figure out before we can do our programs.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@IvyClimb: we would love to do this! but it is not allowed in the Methodist church. . it is the whole congregation or no one.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I love the idea of communion for the bride and the groom. I went to a wedding where the couple washed each other’s feet and I got really teary eyed and thought “I want to do that at my wedding. I hope I marry a man who would do that for me.”

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

The pastor explained communion to our guests and mentioned it as the first act we want to do as a married couple. Our friends began singing a worship song  while we went to a side table (in front) and took communion. Each of us prayed for one another first. DH was bawling!  Then we had real wine in a shared glass…. only a sip and a cracker. 🙂

Later, our atheist photographer (coworker’s boyfriend who was doing pics for free) enthusiastically commented how beautiful this moment was. By The Way, I was very conflicted over having an atheist photographer so I was glad there was some reason in it all!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I always thought it was weird to take communion during a wedding. Actually, the only time I ever saw it was when my cousin got married. Our family has these antique communion cups that my aunt is trying to make me use. But we don’t want communion at our wedding. I can see how it would be a great thing to do as a couple though.

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not Catholic but me and FH are having communion while our psalmist sings the Lord’s Prayer.

Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Correction: The Lord’s Prayer will be sung during the unity candle part of the ceremony.

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