Post # 1
My wedding party is kindly throwing me a bridal shower. I have no say in the guest list, but my bridesmaids gave my future mil 15 invites. My fiance’s brother has a girlfriend who apparently “must” be invited, according to my future mil. My friends and cousins met her once. The one time they met her, she and my fiance’s brother kicked them out of the family’s summer house to have sex in the shower. No love lost there, so they resent that an invite was “wasted” on her when they had to cut people like my cousins. Of course, I got to hear about it.
All this would be petty and wouldn’t bother me, but the woman is rude to me when I see her. My fiance’s sister also told me the girl was complaining about my shower, saying it was killing her. It kind of hurt my feelings and I am really tempted to tell her that no one is strong arming her into going. In fact, I personally wouldnt even have her at the wedding if I had the choice, but I would obviously leave that out. It irritates me that she would think I want her there and vocally complain about it. It is supposed to be a happy thing for people who want to do it! Would you guys say anything?
Post # 3
Some people are just not worth your worry and effort. She sounds like one of them. I would just ignore her comments and focus on other things. if she comes to the shower, smile, say hello, and move on to someone who is worth your time .
Post # 4
Yes for both my shower AND my wedding. Seems half our guests are “obligation” guests. UGH.
Post # 5
@ninatheunicorn: Could her invite “accidenlty” get lost in the mail?
Post # 6
I wanted to elope, so in a way ALL of our invites are “obligation” invites. Sometimes I still wish my Fiance was up for eloping, he wanted a “big” wedding (still only having at most 75 guests since that’s all our venue holds)
Post # 7
I’m doubtful I’m having a shower, but I feel like the majority of our wedding invitations are obligatory. If I had my way, it would just me FH and I, our parents, siblings and a handful of friends, so roughly 15 people. Instead we’re at 65.
In this situation, I would just let it go, or maybe lose her invitation in the mail. If she does come, I would just say hello and then move on to someone who wants to be there.