(Closed) Anyone Help Please!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

to each their own, but from what you wrote it sounds like she’s planning a wedding! And having you help pay for it.  Maybe you should tell them you’ll be happy to help plan and do whatever but give them a set amount of what you can contribute.  That way you can let them do whatever they want without feeling like you’re breaking the bank.

Post # 4
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have an issue with brides, mommies to be, guests of honor, etc. trying to plan the event on someone else’s dime. If your friend is that specific in what she wants then she needs to plan AND pay for the baby shower herself. Her other friends seem to be willing to foot the bill, but I see nothing wrong with the fact that you are not.

If I were you, I would find an amount that I am comfortable giving and let that be the end of it. I recently co-hosted a baby shower and one of the co-hostesses did just that. She only paid what she could afford and helped in other ways like planning games, etc. None of us looked down on her or tried to make her feel less involved b/c of it. Only you know what’s reasonable to your budget and you shouldn’t be made to feel like a spoilsport b/c you won’t go beyond that. 

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