Post # 1
Just wondering. Darling Husband and I had an issue that we need to go to couples counseling right before our wedding. Other than that problem (MIL related) we’re a happy couple. I’ve been meaning to schedule appointments to start going again but just haven’t gotten around to do it.
I want to go back because this issue, causes me and Darling Husband to avoid talking his mom. I can talk about her in a good way but I keep my mouth closed when I have something negative to say. (hehe, I come on here to vent.) This is something I know we have to talk about because in a few years when we start having kids and the Mother-In-Law wants to be involved, it can get a little hairy.
I fully support counseling and I think we both need it. I know we both have some ‘issues’ to figure out but Darling Husband said he’ll go but don’t know if he wants to go.
Post # 3
Hello yrret107 …me and FH also go to premarital counseling. I also enjoy it…it does enhance communication, or at least it has in our case. I’m learning to better communicate things to my FH and its an opportunity to focus solely on our relationship’ for an hour or two! LOL!
As for the Mother-In-Law issue, I feel you on that one too. My FH’s mother seemed to feel as though I was ‘taking’ her son away from her. I understand that he is the baby and there will be some attachment issues, but I guess I won’t fully get it until I am a mother whose son is getting married…? I dunno. Even my FH stated in counseling that his mother has become a lot more clingy lately. I’m not sure what the issue is with your Future Mother-In-Law but I’m almost 90% sure, a lot of women on here are dealing with something similar. Hang in there!
Post # 4
Maybe once he goes a few times he will se the benefits! You definitely don’t have to be a couple in distress to go to counseling
Post # 5
We went regularly to marriage counseling to work on an issue right before and after the wedding. I think we went every week for three or four months right after we got back from the honeymoon before we felt everything was really resolved. We’re not going right now, but if/when something comes in the future, we’ll start going regularly again. We have also made a promise to each other to attend at least once a year for a “check-up” session. Kinda like a yearly physical for our marriage. 🙂
I think it’s great that you and your husband are seeking out help to address the Mother-In-Law issue. It doesn’t have to be a totally debilitating issue; sometimes you just need someone to lead you through the discussions to a resolution on the matter or someone impartial to help you decide how to reach a compromise you’re both happy with. 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah, I like being able to talk to someone and having someone help us to a solution. Or at least be able to get our feelings out.