Post # 1
I realize this is practically blasphemy on a wedding planning site, but what about NOT using flowers? No bouquets. Pocket squares rather than bouts. Candle-based centerpieces. Zero flowers. Don’t get me wrong – I recognize that flowers are pretty. But I’d rather spend my money on booze 🙂 Opinions? Am I doomed to have lame wedding photos? Will guests be horrified? Has anyone else done this? If so, did you do anything in lieu of flowers, or just not have them?
Post # 3
I saw a BEAUTIFUL wedding on some site…. I can’t remember which, or I’d post pics… and the whole bridal party carried these awesome vintage lanterns (it was an outdoor wedding in a vineyard) and it looked awesome.
I’ve always liked the pocket squares too – I’m going to look for those pics.
Post # 4
We’re considering minimal flowers; maybe just the bouquets me and the girls will carry (and of course DIY those).
I might break down on centerpieces though…. I’m having trouble finding much I like.
Post # 5
I love the idea of not using flowers. It’s a colossal waste of money and I hate the thought of raping the earth of something beautiful, for five hours’ use, only for it to die within a week, or less if the person who takes it home doesn’t properly water it.
Get creative. I keep wanting to use branches for my centerpieces and something else for my bridesmaides to hold onto while walking down the aisle.
Post # 6
I went to a friend’s wedding a few years ago, and I’m pretty sure she didn’t use *any* flowers. I’m not 100% sure b/c I wasn’t engaged at the time with weddings on the mind, so I wasn’t super focused on details like flowers. But, I’m 90% sure that there wasn’t a single flower involved in that wedding, and I never thought once about it. I only realized it in retrospect, when I tried to figure out how the bride had spent so little on her wedding (she clued me in a little bit to her budget). It was a gorgeous wedding with so many beautiful and creative details. I wish I had some pics for you. Sorry!
Post # 7
Yay! I’m super-encouraged that I’m not alone in my desire to not use flowers 🙂 As someone who has unintentionally killed plants her whole life (I have a bit of a brown thumb…), I feel that I’ve already done enough flora damage!
Post # 8
I’ve seen wedding where the only flowers were the brides and bridemaids bouquets and the rest of the decor was done in featherr (very tastefully), candles and crystals. It looked gorgeous!
Post # 9
I don’t know if you’re using a wedding coordinator or something (Mine is also my florist) but if you tell them that you really don’t want to waste your budget on flowers, their creativity is AWESOME! However, if they try to push you on flowers, go to someone else. Someone with talent can work with any budget and any stipulations.
Post # 10
I am soooo not a flower person, never have been. Plus I have the opposite of a green thumb. I’m pretty sure we’re doing pocket squares instead of bouts, and our centerpieces will have fruit and candles, but I may have to break down on the bridal & bridesmaid bouquets. I’m always the one to buck tradition but in this case I want to have the bouquets. However – they will be small, like nosegay size. No bouquets as big as my head thank-you-very-much.
How’s the decor at your site? Ours is an outdoor/indoor venue and the outdoor space, not surprisingly, already has a bunch of potted flowers/plants. So if you’re worried guests will be horrified YOU aren’t using flowers, check out the space and see if there will still be some flora to suit what they ‘believe’ should be at a wedding.
Post # 11
as with daydreamwanderer, we might use a minimal amount of flowers… i’ve never really been that much of a flower person. so i’m thinking just my bouquet, and my MOH’s (i’m not having any bridesmaids)… not sure yet though
Post # 12
I love the idea of not using flowers! I agree completely that they are just too darn expensive and really, they just die at the end of the day. That being said, my mom would be for real disappointed if I didn’t have a bouquet so we might have to compromise on that. You could also use potted plants, which while they’re technically *flowers*, they won’t die and you can keep them as a reminder of your fun day! Plus they’re super cheap, a fern (which is HUGE) is like $13 bucks at Sam’s Club!
Post # 13
For one daughter’s wedding,the only flowers we had were the bouquets & bouts,and a spray on the gazebo which was then moved to the bridal table to use as the centerpiece. Table centerpieces were stacked boxes (which also held the favors).
My other daughter’s wedding next May will be the same amount of flowers and centerpieces will be something else too. Lots of options for less/no flowers!
Post # 14
I’m not using flowers- instead, we’re using dead dried okra, orange lantern plants, branches, and pumpkin tree. We might scavange some other natural items off the farm also. Lots of normal size pumpkins too! I mean, LOTS hah
Post # 15
I’m thinking we’ll be using loads and loads of feathers. Between my inability to decide and my somewhat indifference on the subject, I’m thinking we’ll be using a few flowers and supplementing with feathers of all different types.
Post # 16
I love flowers but am going to try to do a 100% flower free affair – with the only exception maybe being a bouquet for pictures (not even for the ceremony!). I’m having a very hard time coughing up the bucks for flowers when I *think* I can get away with something just as lovely but more economical. That said – I’m having the HARDEST time figuring out centerpieces. I’m still a year out, so I’m hoping inspiration will hit me between now and then.
I’m meeting with photogs and will ask their opinion. I’ve seen some great shots where the bride is holding something else (balloons, umbrellas) or nothing at all – so, I don’t think it’s essential… so, it’s definitely possible w/ a great picture outcome!
Another friend of mine did potted plants instead of cut flowers, which I thought was a great idea.