Post # 1
Anyone here skip the head table? My fiance does not like to be the center of attention (which he already knows is a lost cause the day of our wedding) but last week he was BM at a wedding where we sat at the head table. He kept saying how he hated eating with everybody looking at him and would have rather sat at regular tables with everyone else.
He has had very few opinions about our wedding, so when he does feel strongly about something, I try to make it happen for him. So did anyone just skip the head table and put the WP at a regular round table with guests?
Post # 3
@lizzypoo96: we did! We sat at our own 2 person sweetheart table and just mixed the bridal party in at regular tables with their family and friends. It all worked out great and I’m so glad we did it that way.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m going to skip it for my wedding. If he feels strongly tht he doesn’t want it, I’d definitely not have it.
Post # 5
We had a sweetheart table too and loved it. If you FI doesn’t like being front and center I doubt he will like that either
Post # 6
@Lana_Rose: the sweetheart table is definitely out 🙂 lol he does not want to be “on display”
(yes I realize that’s kind of the whole point of a wedding, but ya know, compromise 🙂 )
Post # 7
We also had (and LOVED) our sweetheart table. We had a chance to eat together and chat a brief moment before continuing with the mayhem 🙂
Post # 8
@Chrissy26: We also did a sweetheart table, so the bridesmaids were at a table together with their dates, as were the groomsmen.
However, if your FI doesn’t want to be the center of attention, I agree that he wouldn’t like a sweetheart table.
I’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom sat at a table with their parents and maid of honor and best man. You can really do whatever. What’s most important is that you are both comfortable!
Post # 9
We had a smaller ceremony with lunch for everyone afterwards. We had one very long table because we’d have hated to be separated from our guests. Also, everyone was as important to us as everyone else so the idea of separating into a “VIP” table and a “Rest of You” table was absolutely not what we wanted. Other friends of mine have just had a table surrounded by other tables so there was no sense of a “head table”.
Post # 10
@lizzypoo96: so you’re saying that even you two would just be mixed in with regular tables? I personally think it’s a bit silly, and how do you decide where to sit without offending someone? To each their own but at least at our wedding, people left us alone at our sweetheart table. We really only say at it to eat and at that point everyone else was eating too and not paying any attention to us.
Post # 11
Our sweetheart table was on the same level of all the other tables, and was about 4 ft from the rest of the tables. It was the same size as the rest of the tables, and so we blended. Alot of people just sat down with us and chatted, and I was dreading the sweetheart table. Plus my younger nieces all sat with us at the table to eat. The oldest at the time was about 7. Plus once we finished eating we danced.
It was such a different feeling than the head tables I’d been at before. It’s creepy when people are starving watching other people sitting on a stage eating. Plus the person you came with is sitting with strangers, it’s all so akward.
Maybe if you have a lower sweetheart table and blends into the other tables it could work for him.
Post # 12
Head tables are THE WORST.
Post # 13
I’m definitely trying to figure this out myself. We have a huge bridal party so a head table would be massive. But I don’t want a sweetheart table either. I will probably just seat us at a round table with our MOH, BM and their sig others and my niece who’s the flower girl (my sis is my MOH). Then have round tables around us with the rest of our bridal party. Seating is going to be interesting to figure out….
Post # 14
I think that if your intention is NOT to draw attention to yourselves then a sweetheart table is going to be counterproductive. Because instead of a whole, head table full of people, there will just be two of you sat in solitary splendour who will become the focus of attention. I see nothing wrong at all if you mix in with regular tables. As I said above, other friends of mine has done this without causing offence to anyone.
Post # 15
No one really bothered us at the sweetheart table. Maybe because we were too busy kissing and I giggled the whole time lol. I wouldn’t want to just nbe at a regular table. If I chose to sat with my mom then dad would have been mad…
Post # 16
We’re doing a sweetheart table – head tables suck!
The sweetheart table is really just there for your to sit and eat, and sit to listen to speeches.
You may need to explain to FI that no matter WHERE you sit, people will be looking at you.
You could sit in the kitchen and people would come to find you to lavish attention on you.
It’s just one day, can he put aside his reservations for you?
That doesn’t sound like too much to ask to me (hell, I’m doing it – I don’t really want to be “on display” either but I will gladly si up there to make my fiance happy for a few hours)
Some coworkers did a lounge with white couches instead of a sweetheart table – it was very cool and very opulent looking. There was a canopy over the cluster of couches and some uplighting. They sat on a couch to eat, etc. and when guests wanted to come say hi they’d come and sit on a couch. It’s a suggestion, but a very expensive one.