Post # 1
My Future Sister-In-Law asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. I’m over the moon happy for them! They have been together 6 years and have worked so hard to be where they are today in their relationship. They are having a fall wedding next year….
What is my place? I’ve never been a bridemaid before and don’t know exactly what is expected of me. I’m so excited for them and they have me very much a part of the planning. I too want a fall wedding but it will def. be the following year. I have caught myself saying…ooohhh I want to do that for my wedding too or I wanted to do that..I’m not even engaged. They know it’s close. I just have a hard time making it all about them sometimes like I know it should be.
Any suggestions? Thanks:)
Post # 3
If you can get in touch with any other bridesmaids so you can all be on the same page about showers, bathelorette etc.
I know its tempting to look at things and want them for yourself or to be worried about giving away your own ideas! Let Future Sister-In-Law bounce feedback off of you and just be there for her.
The biggest problem brides on here seem to have with their bridal party is lack of communication and motivation 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks for your input. I don’t mind if they use my ideas. My brother and I are really close so if he thought they were going to use something that might upset me he would run it by me first. I bought him a dog for his birhtday a few years ago and when they named her they called me to ask if it was ok if they used the name Cadance since they knew one day I wanted to name my child that. I said oh jeez no problem! Then a few months later found out I was expecting lol. Still didn’t mind.
I just don’t want them to think my head is in my wedding instead of theirs. I will defenityl get with the other bridesmaids to see about planning the events. I think I’ll ask her what she would like me to do too?
Post # 5
@QuinnLynn7: I think your main job is to just be supportive. Every bride is different too. I am currently a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding and she is very easy going. I have done the usual things such as dress fittings, bridesmaid dress shopping, lunches, bridal shower and bachelorette. Other than that, despite numerous offers, all she has asked of me are song suggestions. She emails sometimes and bounces ideas off me but mainly she takes care of everything herself and we are just around if she needs us. I am UNBELIEVABLY lucky in the bridesmaid department!
On the other hand, some brides are super needy and want you there every step of the way. You will learn as time passes what kind of bride your Future Sister-In-Law will be and then judge from there how active of a roll you will have.