My mother basically gave up custody of me when I was 5, as she didn’t show up for the hearing. Ever since then, we’ve never been close.. she’d even skip out on her scheduled visitation weekends, and such. Same thing happened years later with my youngest sister (who was 8 at the time). But, I digress.
All this being said, I moved in with her when I was 19. I foolishly thought that our relationship could be salvaged. I wanted my Mum around, y’know? On top of that, I was sick of not seeing my sisters. Things were okay for a while, but I found out the hard way that she’d never change.. she’d sit at home all day whining about how tough her life was, and how broke she was, but she wouldn’t get a job. She plays the welfare system (she’s the strongest woman I know, physically, but still swears to this day that she can’t handle manual labour). After she gave up custody of my youngest sister, it got even worse, though.
The final straw came, however, when I became pregnant, and was supporting her, and my 16-year-old sister (who flunked out of high school), on top of trying to save for myself, and the baby. I’d work full-time, only to return home to cook, clean, and basically be their maid. They (yes, both of them!) would smoke pot all day, stay up ’til the wee hours of the morning, and then do it all over again, day in-day out. When my Dirty Delete was born, I got out of there. She didn’t need to be around it. My Mum didn’t take it well, to say the least, since her cash cow was gone, and even threatened to take me to court to pay her rent, etc.. HA!
We left 6 years ago, and not once have either of them contacted me to see how myself, or Dirty Delete are. Actually, that’s a lie.. my Mum tried texting me once a few months ago. But, no calls for birthdays, Christmas, nothing. The drop-out sister finally finished high school, is now 23, and has her own Dirty Delete.. and, she’s following in the same direction as my Mum–never had a job, living on welfare, and as far as I know, she doesn’t even have her own place.. she crashes on her friends’ couches. I feel so sorry for my poor niece, because she’s the sweetest little thing! She deserves better. If I could do it financially, I’d petition to adopt her.
My youngest sister is now 18, and I fear that she’ll be the same.. she’s still in high school (grade 10, since she’s failed so many classes), smokes pot, parties with our middle sister/Mum.. oh yeah, WINNING family I have.
We have seen my sisters a few times over the years (SO tries to get us together), but we’re definitely not close.
Needless to say, I’m not sure if any of them will be invited to the wedding. Part of me really wants them there, since they are family, but I don’t really want to associate with them. :s