Post # 32
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I love mine and would never upgrade. It’s perfect for me – a nice smallish size, 0.7 carats, but still sparkly/stunning PLUS it’s a family heirloom.
But if others want to, that’s their business and I wouldn’t judge them.
Post # 33
I surely am. Mine is a simple .5 ct diamond solitaire on a thin white gold band. It is a ring, not a status symbol.
Post # 34
I love my ring. I dd tell my Fiance exactly what I wanted and we looked at rings together but he made the final decision and had it specially made. It has engraving on it also which was a surprise and I love it. I agree, that the ring is not supposed to be a status symbol but a symbol of the love and commitment a couple has together. I dont really understand the upgrading and changing of engagement rings either. You’re SO, the one you want to marry, picked it! Be happy with it!
Post # 35
Ering is very important to me because i am the only one wearing it, no one else. Therefore, I have to have a say in it, I can not leave it to my SO to pick it out and surprised me. In fact, he told me to pick it out and his duty is just to pay. It makes me.happy and hassle free for him.
And yes, I love my ring. I am very specific about the spec, it has to be excellent in all spec and colorless. And we bought the diamond at the right price. I would scream if he had bought it at a retail store.that has huge mark up, with not so great quality. Am I concious about my ring? Ofcourse, I picked it out, and it is expensive, to me. Am I going to upgrade to a bigger stone ? Absolutely, I dont see why not if we can afford it in the future. I love jewelry. Do I go around and tell people around me my diamond specs? Hell no.
Post # 36
@goldfish2308: and I also agree with other bees that an ering should not be a status symbol, it is a symbol of committment. However, we live in a material world, if not, people would not choose expensive diamond to show their commitment. A simple gold band.would do. Even so, gold is expensive.
Some people want to.show their status by driving expensive cars, huge houses, luxury watch, and some by an ering. Nothing is wrong with it, as long as they can afford it.
Post # 37
- Wedding: March 2014 - Glen Sanders Mansion
My ring is exactly what I wanted and what Fiance wanted and I love it. The center stone is just shy of a full carat, and that bothers Fiance tremendously for some reason! The only reason I would change it is if in 5-10 years or so Fiance was adament about getting a bigger stone.
Post # 38
I love my ring, I picked it out myself so I’d better. I’m a very particular person and my bf is more laid back so specs were very important to me and he rolled with it. I did a ton of research and really enjoyed learning about different stones, qualities, sizes, clarities, metals, etc it was fascinating. I would literally read up on the different subjects and present my research findings to my bf, then we’d go have “fun” with our jeweler, and it was overall a great experience for us both. I love that he knew me well enough to know I’d want to be involved in the process. The Bee has a ring board for a reason…it’s here for us to gush about how much we love our FI/DH’s for giving us the rings and we’re so happy yada yada but also to look at and talk about the jewelry! That includes specs for those of us who know them, I don’t think it screams arrogant, it’s just another aspect of the ring but it’s all love. I don’t walk around whipping my GIA cert around or throwing out my 4cs, but on the Bee, I’m comfortable enough to do that because I think it’s about the whole shebang.
Post # 39
@redbootz: I’ve got to say, even if this thing was a hot pink ring pop, I’d be happy. The meaning is what matters. My partner gave me a token to show he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Of all of the billions of people in the world, he wants ME.
The posts on here with people having ring regret or envy drive me up a wall. I never even considered the possibility of not loving it because of who gave it to me and what it represents.
For the record, I DO love my ring and we picked it out together. But it has everything to do with the love I feel for my partner, not the fact it is a 3mm 14kt 74cm 38DD halo. (I’m making stats up there if you can’t tell).
Post # 40
@redbootz: I’m very happy with my ring. I did give my FH DIRECT input into what I wanted, what size thresholds I was interested in, and I even said that if I didn’t like it I hope he’d understand if I returned it to get something I wanted.
Some women are just soooooooooo grateful to get a ring at all and get the man of their dreams. While I am so very, genuinely happy I have met such a wonderful man, I did state that if he couldn’t procure a ring I requested, I’d rather forego it and enjoy a beatiful gold wedding band. Honestly, I was a bit on the fence over getting a fab ring due to the money involved but I also didn’t want a Wal-Mart special that high schoolers get.
Yeah, I know this makes me sound like a bitch but I am delighted with the ring I got. It is perfect and more than I asked for. If he gave me a ring I didn’t like, I’d be touched and delighted by the sentimentality but I’d ask, “um… did you keep the receipt?”
I do the same at Christmas. It’s how I was raised. Why waste someone’s money by not being honest that you don’t like it and then not wear it/use it?
Oh, good news! The repair shop just called and apparently they are shipping me out a refurbed cold and deadened heart! Awesome.
Post # 41
I feel exactly the same way. Fiance picked out my ring all by himself & I love it. I would never want to change anything about it or upgrade it. I will be happy to wear this ring for the rest of my life. It is beautiful & timeless 🙂
Post # 42
I love my ring. I wouldn’t want to change a single thing about it. FI went to look at rings twice together because he wanted to give me something I would love. I narrowed down a few options that I liked but I wanted him to pick and have the final say on his own. When he proposed, he slid the ring on my finger and I said yes without even looking at it (and cried and hugged him until he told me look at the ring!). I know the stats because it was my job to get it insured. I still would’ve said yes if I hated the ring. I love my Fiance and at the end of the day that is really all I care about. I feel honored that he chose me to be his wife.
Post # 43
Waiting bee here, so I don’t have a ring to gush over yet! BUT I just wanted to say I enjoy reading other bees ring stats, it’s helped educate me on rings A LOT. I never judged them for sharing, took it as gloating or thought they were materialistic. I dunno, that’s just me.
Post # 44
Most women I know like their rings, but I always hear people wishing theirs was a little bigger or the setting was different. It doesn’t make you a bad person and doesn’t mean you aren’t happy. Most women wear their engagement rings every day for the rest of their life, so I think it’s okay to be particular about it. To each his own!
Post # 45
@ceebree: I am allowed an opinion, and I like others to share their opinions, do I get offend no because everyone is different maybe I like to sometimes start a debate it’s interesting to here the views and the reasons why and it helps me to understand. So to me all the comments from the lovely bees makes me aware of things I perhaps had not thought of.
Post # 46
There are loads of women who don’t care about ring details. In northern europe it seems to be the rule almost. A lack of preferences isn’t the same as a moral highground though, i’m sure they have lots of things they could humblebrag about if they wanted to.
It doesn’t hurt to remember that almost any question that starts with “am I the only one who…” invariably has “no” as the answer.