(Closed) Anyone kind of hoping a family member won’t come?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You’re probably not alone, but people aren’t as likely to admit it about family members… i was in the same camp. My person, for the record, didn’t come. *happy dance*

I’ll cross my fingers for ya monita!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry, sometimes it’s hard to change people’s thoughts.

Yup.  I’m soooo wishing a certain someone on HIS side doesn’t come.  Ick.

Post # 5
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have an aunt that I hope will not come because she does not get along with my cousin and I would perfer my cousin over her!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha, I feel you on this one! I have a few family members who are so judgmental it’s ridiculous. If they can turn that off for a day and just be happy for us, that’s wonderful. I just hope we’re not hearing snide comments through our parents for years after our wedding. (They did what?!)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You are not alone!  We recently learned that there’s a chance a particular relative and her husband may not make it, and we’re secretly really hoping that will come to fruition!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You are not alone.  I would not be happy if my Biological Father’s wife came to my wedding.  I hate that woman and if she knows what is good for her she will not come.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Definitely not alone.  I’m hoping a cousin of mine decides he’s too cool to come to the wedding and reception.  He’s a senior in HS and gets high and drunk all the time.  His parents have absolutely no control over him.  I’m afraid he’d try to take advantage of our open bar even though they will be checking IDs at the bar.  

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

ooo me! lol. I’m hoping one of my cousins doesn’t come. In general, I just think she’s kind of a bad person. She has two daughters that she treats TERRIBLY and they’re basically feral. It’s so sad. She is super selfish, treats her mother (my aunt) terribly, and has a tendency to get into loud arguments with her mother and/or children regardless of the location. Add to this the fact that she got married 2 years ago to a man who lives as a woman (in itself I have no problem with this… but keep reading)…. and the spouse runs his own business OUT OF THEIR HOME selling “hypnotic sado massochistic pornagraphic audio tapes.” I have no freakin clue what that means and I don’t want to. Plus he doesn’t get along with my aunt because he’s said some pretty crappy things so there is drama there too. 

Another cousin who is also getting married this year said he wasn’t going to invite her… but I think he changed his mind now due to the potential fall-out. I am inviting her and I’m just not going to worry too much about it. Worst case scenario she comes and gets into a fight with someone… well whatever she’ll look stupid not me. I’m going to be teflon to drama and not let anyone tarnish my day. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I didn’t want my Nana to come.  She is fueding with my dad and there’s no way I want to be in the middle of that.  She was ALWAYS rude to my mom growing up, and I never really forgave her for it.  Anyway, true to form, she decided NOT to go to our wedding so she could avoid the three hour car ride with my parents.  It made the day immensely more enjoyable for EVERYONE.  So no, you’re not a bad person for hoping someone doesn’t attend your wedding!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sort of hoping my grandmother doesn’t come. Not because she’s awful or mean in any way though. She has Alzheimers and even though she’s on medication she can be a bit unpredictable. I think being in a place she’s never been may be too confusing for her. She tends to decide she wants to leave after she’s been somewhere for 10 minutes announcing it to have been a delightful afternoon together… My grandfather (her husband) means the world to me and I want him to be there and enjoy himself, I don’t want him to leave all of a sudden if she wants to go. Most of the time she doesn’t know who I am, so it’s sort of terrible, but I don’t think she would feel like she was “missing” something if she didn’t come. I wish things were better and she could be at the wedding and enjoy it, but as it stands, it would absorb all my grandfather’s attention and be a distraction for my mom. It would be better if she didn’t come, although I will miss having her there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

there are a few folks i hope stay home (so judgemental and mean!!!), unfortunately they NEVER stay home. so heres to wishing!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh, I am pretty much hoping that most of my Dad’s side of the family and FI’s Mom’s ENTIRE extended family doesn’t come.  She made us invite everyone and their mother (literally) because “they’re family.”  I had to put my foot down and nix the people whose names Fiance could not remember or spell.  If you don’t know ’em, why do you want them to spend the most importatnt day of their life with you?

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m hoping my step sis doesn’t come.  She is so terrible!  I don’t get a long with her at all.  Just her presence in a room bohers me (and not only me many other ppl as well).  I’m not inviting her live-in bf so I’m hoping she doesn’t come b/c he is not invited.  not likely.  She already had the nerve to ask me what kind of BM dress I was going to make her wear.  I had to let her know she wasn’t a BM!!!  Awkward. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have an uncle that I have to invite.  He and my aunt split many years ago when he went on a buisiness meeting and had his scrotum accidentally torn off in a weird sex act with a prostitute.  Yep. For real.  That’s not the only messed up thing about him, but I have to invite him and I’m hoping he can’t come.

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