Post # 1
Call me crazy, but I’m really nervous about telling my parents that Darling Husband and I are expecting Baby #2! We’re planning on telling them on Mother’s Day and I’ve been having nightmares for two weeks now about them being upset or mad about it. Maybe just the pregnancy hormones? Anyone else nervous?
-We have a daughter (9 months old).
-Baby #2 was planned (we wanted them that close in age).
-DH has one year left until he graduates as a veterinarian, I graduate with a degree in engineering in December (1 week after baby #2 is due, I already have a BA in English).
-I think I’m secretly afraid they’re going to see me getting pregnant again as an excuse to not try to find a job or use my degree, but after our daughter was born, Darling Husband and I both knew I was meant to be a Stay-At-Home Mom (and financially we’ll be able to)…so it’s not like he’s trying to keep me “barefoot and pregnant” or anything :/
Post # 3
I think we’ve been keeping it so secret that it feels like a private thing between my husband and I. While I can’t wait to stop lying about things to deflect suspicion, I’m feeling a little reluctant to share the news with people. I think it’s because I’m anticipating having to answer tons of questions or getting unsolicited advice from people.
I kind of just want to get it over with. I thought I’d be really excited to tell people, but now I’m not looking forward to it.
Post # 4
@newlynesting: My daughters are 14 months apart. It’s a fun age gap, honestly. Although I’m pregnant with my third and my younger daughter is 3 so it will be a big gap this time (not on purpose, sadly).
I actually didn’t tell my parents, my sisters did. With my sisters, I just braced myself for the inevitable “OMG THREE” comments, but it went well. They knew we were TTC, so that helped.
Post # 5
@bug-in-a-rug: Yay! I’m glad to know I’m not alone 🙂 When do you think you’ll “go public”? We’re going to dress our daughter up in a “Big Sister” shirt on Mother’s Day when we take my parents out to lunch and just wait for someone to notice.
@stuckinwonderland: Thanks for sharing your story! Do your daughters that are close in age get along well? I always thought having a sibling that close in age would be like a built in friend 🙂 We’re shooting for 3 under 3, but we’ll see how the next baby goes! Congrats on your pregnancy!
Post # 6
@newlynesting: We would have done three under three if life worked out that way. We would like to have four children and have this baby and the final one with the same age gap as the girls. The girls are best pals. It is a lot of fun and always has been.
I will tell you most doctors will tell you it’s a bad idea. Your body needs longer to recover than what I gave mine. I’m not saying it didn’t work out, but doctors will tell you it’s less than ideal for your own personal health. I’m not sure what they’d have said had I gotten pregnant right away again!
Post # 7
@newlynesting: I’m not pregnant yet, but have 7 younger siblings and all of us are in sets: me and my sister (23 and 22), twin brothers (20), and then two more brothers (12 and 10.5) and two sisters (9 and 7.5). All of us have a sibling within 2 years of us and it works great! All of us are biological siblings and we love spending time together. I think the close ages will work really well 🙂 Congratulations!
Post # 8
I’m freaking the hell out about telling them.
Post # 9
@newlynesting: Not sure how we’re going to do it. We recently came back from vacation, and at one of the places we went to on our trip you’re supposed to write a wish on a piece of paper and stick it onto a wall to make it come true. Our piece of paper said ‘Healthy Baby’, and we took a picture of it. I’m thinking of just putting that picture in with the rest of the vacation pics, so that when we’re going through our vacation pics with my parents it will just come up. Then we have an excuse to have our camera out and can take a picture of their reactions? I don’t know though. It’s kind of stressing me out!
I was thinking of doing it on Mother’s Day too, but we decided to wait just one more week until the ultrasound is showing everything’s OK.
Post # 10
We were nervous to tell because ours is an unplanned honeymoon baby! Luckily both of our parents were excited 🙂
Post # 11
Haha, my Mom didn’t even want us to wait until the wedding! She wants grandbabies NOW.
I’m not excited about telling FI’s family (when we DO get pregnant) they’re just so unenthusiastic about LIFE. And stupid Future Father-In-Law is just going to make an off-color paternity joke. Ugh he’s such an ass…
Post # 12
@newlynesting: You sound a lot like me! I’m 6 weeks pregnant with #2 and I also have a 9 month old! Darling Husband and I went through an adjustment period when DS was born which is completely normal. Now everything’s back to the way it used to be, but my mom and sister think we’re being selfish for even thinking of having another baby. My mom says we won’t love DS as much and he’ll be shoved aside (not possible, we’re obsessed with him). My sister is unmarried and says she’ll never have children must tris to give us parenting and marriage advice.
It’s going to be kind of amusing when we finally tell them next month! All that matters is that you’re excited and happy! If this is what you want, don’t worry about anyone else:)
Post # 13
We told mine last night, I definitely had butterflies and Darling Husband was a nervous wreck. They were soooo excited and happy. my mom started crying! She didn’t even cry when my older sister announced she was pregnant. It was a really special moment. It went way better than I ever envisioned.
We are telling my in laws on Sunday and I’m excited but nervous to tell them too. My Darling Husband respects his parents sooo much and knows they will be excited but is is semi nervous because we are young (both 24).