(Closed) Anyone not able to attend a destination bachalorette? Would you go?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@roxy821:That’s a lot of money!! I probably wouldn’t go just because of the expense but I’d find a way to connect with the bride some other way.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just be honest with her and let her know that although you would love to go, you just have a lot of other expenses currently. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

don’t go. you said you can’t afford it, and you’re not *that* close to the girl.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yeah, I’d have to pass – I know I wouldn’t be able to have fun anyway if I was worried about overspendig the whole time (and that usually happens with bachelorette parties). Join in on the fun afterward 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If I could swing it yes I would go, if not no. I would just talk to the bride and explain unfortunately you are not able to come due to as you mentioned.  People need to be understanding that sometimes things like this happen

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would just explain that you cannot afford to go and make your own plans to hang out another night. She most likely understands its a big expense and not everyone will be able to go.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Explain it to her politely, and tell her you’ll take her out for drinks or have a girls’ movie night when she gets back. Friends understand stuff like this!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I second what Beluga said: Offer to take her out for drinks, or have a spa day with her for just the two of you.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You wouldn’t come off as a jerk.  I’m sure she would understand.  I have some bridesmaids who can’t come to mine due to either scheduling or financial, and I have absolutely no problem with it.  It is an expensive trip (nothing really ridiculous, but still a chunk of change), so from the offset I had let them all know that if they couldn’t come, I knew it had no bearing on my relationship with them.  Just talk to her about it, and I’m sure she won’t be mad. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d skip it.  Unless you’re my sister or best friend, I don’t do destination bachelorette parties… even if I can afford it, I just have other financial priorities.  I hope that doesn’t make me sound like a bad friend, but it is how I feel about it.

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