Post # 1
Not that I’m anti-romance or anything, but ever since Darling Husband and I stopped ‘dating’ we also stopped celebrating Valentines day. Before you start to think we aren’t in love anymore or something, here is my reasoning: For one thing, in NYC it’s pretty impossible to get a good dinner reservation on Feb 14th and even if you do, the menus are all price fixed with a very limited selection. So a meal that would have cost us maybe $80 total is now going to cost us $150 at 1/2 the portion size. And those restaurants rush you out of there so quickly, I remember one year I was still holding my fork about to take a bite when they took my plate away.
Also, getting flowers is a nightmare. One year, Darling Husband tried to send me flowers from one of the national online sites and not only did they fail to deliver the flowers, they wouldn’t admit to doing anything wrong and would only offer to deliver them a week later for an extra delivery charge. That is a terrible memory because I remember Darling Husband having to deal with total incompetence for about 2 weeks in order to get it straightened out.
I don’t mean to be the scrooge of Valentines day, but does anyone else feel the same way? And not to sound too cheesy or anything, but my Darling Husband regularly takes us out to dinner and buys me presents and flowers, so why would we need to do it on this particular day to feel validated?
Post # 3
Yeah, it’s not really our thing either. Some of my friends literally map out what they want their SO’s to do for them on Valentine’s Day. The last few years my husband went out and bought me shitty gas station flowers in a big hurry because he forgot haha!
We’re going out for a really nice early dinner on Friday (with our daughter) to celebrate his recent promotion, so that will be our unofficial Valentine’s Day.
Post # 4
I like to celebrate Valentine’s Day, whether I am in a relationship or not. I think it is a great way to break up the gray that surrounds everyone in the middle of winter. People get excited and dress in bright colors. lol I really hate winter and I think a “holiday” in the middle of it really breaks up the monotony of it.
Post # 5
We’re not really into it, either. The ONLY reason I insisted on exchanging “gifts” is that someone on here brought up the “bacon bouquet” idea and I soooo wanted to try it out lol. So, we agreed we’d exchange gifts this year but with a $5 limit.
I also don’t like the restaurant scene on major holidays. It’s just much more enjoyable for me to go on a quiet Tuesday night when we don’t feel rushed and don’t have to wait for a table.
Anyway, my fiance does nice things for me all the time. He brings home flowers or chocolate almost once a week, so I don’t feel short changed if I don’t get overpriced flowers on some arbitrary holiday.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: We are doing something very similar, I’ve asked Darling Husband to only get me local neighborhood bodega flowers if he wants to buy me something and we’re going out to dinner on Thursday. I guess that is kind of instructing him on what to get me, but in a different way, lol!
@MissCallieJean: That is a good point, it is fun and festive today with people wearing red and the decorations everywhere. February can be very bleak and dull!
Post # 7
@moderndaisy: That is the only reason I celebrate it. lol People seem to wake up from their winter depression! But honestly this winter has been really REALLY nice, so Valentine’s day isn’t really needed this year. ;P
@les105: haha let us know how the bacon bouquet goes!
Post # 8
The only reason I look forward to it is because it is something to celebrate in the bleakness of winter! I love the colors and fact that chocolate is usually on sale lol
We don’t go all out but in my family we just acknowledge love in general, for friends, family, etc. It’s not a huge romantic holiday in my book but a way of saying you appreciate someone close to you.
Post # 9
I’m kinda anti-valentine’s, but Darling Husband likes it. I’m in the why celebrate our love on a random day (that has no significance to use) with over priced everything. He’s really good about flowers randomly, so no need to do something special today.
That said, tonight we are going out to see Princess Bride in a movie theater and I bought him some chocolates (but asked him not to buy me anything).
Post # 10
We’re not celebrating it…we are engaged this year, but didn’t really do anything last year either. Honestly, I don’t really care. It’s not that important to me. I think Valentine’s Day is great, but I don’t see it as a time that two people should be pressured into celebrating if they aren’t into the idea. Definitely doesn’t mean you don’t love one another!
Post # 11
My fiance and I arn’t too big on Valentine Day either. He manages at a take and bake pizza place, and for some reason people LOVE to but pizza on Valentines Day, its one of the busiest days of the year which means he will work a 12 to 13 hour day 🙁
We did move in together on Valentines day 2009 however, so we usually celebrate that! lol
Post # 12
We don’t celebrate it. I’ve never been a fan because everything is extra expensive and too many single people are moody for me to enjoy it (I have lots of single friends). FI’s birthday is in 2 weeks and our anniversary is 2 weeks later, I just don’t think we need another holiday this time of the year (not to mention christmas was a month and a half ago). Our new anniversary will be in August though so we might start celebrating after we’re married. Probably not though. I am a huge chocolate fan and tend to snack on it all day during v-day but only because its everywhere this time of year 🙂
Post # 13
We never really celebrated Valentine’s day before, except for a card and maybe a special home-cooked meal, but now that we have a baby, date nights are rare and we’ll be enjoying a special dinner out tonight while my parents are watching our son. I’d rather enjoy that evening at home with Darling Husband, but the drive would be too long so we’re going to a restaurant near my parent’s place instead.
Post # 14
For me, Valentine’s Day is commercialised and forced; I’m really not a fan, and we don’t celebrate it. I just find it quite unromantic and a bit false, like these this weird pressure to somehow ‘out do’ other couples (if I see ONE more FB status about someone’s darling buying x for them, or another photo of flowers, I think I might throw up..).
My OH and I do little things for each other all the time, or go out for dinner etc eg last week we went for a few drinks, then decided to go to a restaurant for dinner on the spur of the moment. I like that; it’s nice, and it’s romantic. Whereas I think planning something for a day that has largely been created so shops and restaurants can make more money, isn’t so romantic.
We’re staying in tonight and going out Wednesday or Thursday which is our usual night out. Just can’t face the sickly sweet couples and all the red flowers and balloons tonight; not our cup of tea lol
Post # 15
I have never celebrated Valentines Day in the 6.5 years I have been with my SO and I never celebrated before. I have been given gifts before. I’m not bitter, I just choose not to celebrate. I guess I never saw the point, it’s one of those holidays that people make up their own mind about. I’m also not negative about the day either. I am indifferent.
I go allll out on St. Patricks Day though!
Post # 16
ME!! The main reason is bc SO is working a 16-hour day, which did not bum me out at all. We are not big on the ‘holiday’, spending money on an overpriced dinner, etc. We made dinner at home last night, and worked on a project, which is perfect for us right now 🙂
So, I will happily be home in my PJ’s with a glass of a wine, a movie, and maybe some Chinese. Perfect Tuesday in my book!!!