(Closed) Anyone not do a unity ceremony (candle, sand, etc.)? Will ceremony be too short?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Unity ceremony?

    Don't worry about it - it's not necessary and your ceremony won't be too short.

    You should do something - the ceremony will be way too short.

  • Post # 3
    2977 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I didn’t do any sort of unity ceremony, and my friend did 1 reading. The ceremony ended up being about 20 minutes. Not too short, not too long. It was not in a church either, so there was no mass.

    Post # 5
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Depends on how religious it is. Do you have a lot of prayers or a sermon? Or is it more secular with essentially just vows?

    Post # 6
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    By the time the officient does the greeting, you recite your vows, exchange rings  and reading it could be anywhere from 15-20 minutes. When we decided on what was to be said for the ceremony I printed it out and read it aloud as if we were saying it in real time. This gave me an idea of how long it would be. Ours was 15 minutes and it seemed like just the right amount of time… not to short, not to long.

    Post # 9
    34 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We had a short and sweet ceremony, which was a good thing because it was pretty emotional and I don’t know if we would have made it through a long one! We did the introduction, a reading, short vows, ring exchange with more vows, presentation and signing the license – it probably took ten to fifteen minutes but it felt like time stood still – in a good way! Then we had a big group photo of everyone who came  (small wedding in a scenic place) before heading to the reception. 

    Like I said, a small wedding, so there were no hitches. A big wedding, I could see it taking longer. 

    I’d say it also depends on how much work you’re putting into the setup – we did minimal setup,but if we had put more effort into it I probably would have wanted a longer ceremony to make it worth the work! 


    Post # 10
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My ceremony’s very similar, and I had the same thoughts!  I only have two bridesmaids and the aisle is very short.  So I’m thinking around 20 minutes.  I hope it’s OK!  I’m sure it will be!

    Post # 12
    10449 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I have never liked unity ceremonies.  They are just SO not for us. We will not be doing one and I think the shorter the ceremony, the better. Guests get bored.

    Post # 13
    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had a full mass and did not have a unity candle for a few reasons- time being one of them. I definitely wouldn’t worry about your ceremony being too short- do whatever is best for the two of you!

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